被禁止的性行为与性暴力

成人与儿童的性接触: 乱伦: 心理方面

在大多数国家，乱伦是一种犯罪行为，但是因为它通常都是私下发生的，就难以被揭露和被指控。大多数确实进入刑法法庭之前的乱伦案例都涉及到父亲及其年轻的女儿。在一些案例里，受害的女孩甚至还没有发育到青春期。但是，这通常并不意味着当事的父亲就是娈童癖者。（那些为了达到接近一名妇女的孩子的目的而与她结婚的这种例外的例子里，当事的男人是娈童癖者。）通常，当事的父亲只是利用一个毫无防备而方便的性对象而已。而且这恰恰是他为什么对待他的孩子的原因——作为他的自我原欲（egotistical desire）[1]的发泄对象。他也许会利用奉承、允诺、欺骗、胁迫、强迫、恐吓甚或直接的强制力，而且，如果这种乱伦仍旧没有败露，可能持续许多年。

就女儿方面来说，乱伦的体验从心理上看几乎始终是毁灭性的。如果她就这个变故从根本上要成功克服心理创伤，可能要多年时间。她也可能会因为自己的母亲“顾及了他人”和没有帮助自己而责备母亲（有时责备是合乎道理的）。总而言之，父女之间的乱伦在一个家庭里会造成一种无法容忍的家庭气氛。（母子之间的乱伦后果严重程度可能较轻一些，不过，无论如何也是非常罕见的。）

因种种原因，一些家庭要告发乱伦罪犯会犹豫不决。他们可能需要家里的这个养家活口的人（breadwinner），害怕外界的流言蜚语，或寄希望于“私了”。的确，审判和判刑尚不足以解决这样的案例。所有家庭成员，包括这名父亲在内，如果尚存一丁点儿相互信任的话，都需要心理咨询的帮助。不过，最经常的情形是，他们的关系会被损害到难以修复的程度。

Prohibited Sexual Behavior and Sexual Violence

Adult Sexual Contact with Children: Incest: Psychological Aspects

Incest is a crime in most countries, but since it usually takes place in private, it is not easily discovered and prosecuted. Most cases of incest that do come before a criminal court involve fathers and their young daughters. In some cases, the girls have not even reached puberty. However, this usually does not mean that the father is a pedophile. (The exceptions are pedophiles who marry a woman for the purpose of getting close to her children.) As a rule, the father simply takes advantage of a defenseless and easily available sexual object. And this is indeed how he treats his child - as an object of his egotistical desire. He may use flattery, promises, deception, intimidation, coercion, threats or even outright force, and if the incest remains undiscovered, it may continue for years.
For the daughter, the experience is almost always psychologically devastating. It may take her many years to overcome her trauma, if she succeeds in this at all. She may also blame her mother – sometimes with good reason – for having “looked the other way” and having failed to help her. All in all, father-daughter incest creates an intolerable situation within a family. (Mother-son incest may have less serious consequences, but is, in any case, quite rare.)
Some families are, for a variety of reasons, reluctant to report the crime. They may need their breadwinner, fear the inevitable scandal, or hope to “handle it themselves”. Certainly, a trial and a conviction are not sufficient to resolve such a case. All family members, including the father, need psychological help if they are ever to regain a minimum of mutual trust. Very often, however, their relationship is damaged beyond repair.