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性行为的基本类型
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异性性交
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不仅仅是性交合
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性交合
由达·芬奇所画的解剖学图
(1452 - 1519)英国王室收藏，温莎公爵藏。
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Coitus
Anatomical drawing by Leonardo da Vinci
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性交合（coitus）是能够导致生殖的唯一的性交形式，而且在我们的文化中它因而长期以来被吹捧为高级的性交方式。按照犹太教和基督教的传统教义，性与生殖是不可分割的。以其根本的本性来说，任何不能导致怀孕的性活动曾经被认为是有罪的和必须要予以劝阻的。甚至在大多数西方国家里，这种罪过最后也变成了一种犯罪。数个世纪以来，非性交合的性交（noncoital
intercourse）[1]曾被认为是一种严重违背道德的事情，因而要受到非常严厉的惩罚。最终，现代精神病学家把这种所谓的罪行转变为一种疾病，他们声称不喜欢性交而愿意选择任何其它性活动方式的成人是精神上有病，或至少是“不成熟的”。
对性交合的过度强调不必要地耗费了千千万万人的人生。现代性治疗师已经发现，持续地专注于阴茎与阴道的性交和忽视身体其它部位的“性敏感区”，实际上可能使男女产生性感觉迟钝，并因而损害他们的性功能（参见第五讲）。只要性交合被描述为性交的最高和最终的形式，其它所有形式的性交就会显而易见地必定被认为是低级的形式。至多，它们只会被当作“变异的形式”或“替代的形式”，或被当作针对“主场戏（main
event）”[2]的某种“开场白”或“终曲”。换一句话说，夫妻仍会觉得他们要设法通过性交合来促成自然而然的性体验，唯有如此才是正当的。他们会继续把性交划分为开演戏、篇章戏或渐进高潮的主场戏，而且仍就不能开发出他们全部的性潜能。
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Basic Types of Sexual Behavior |
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2. Heterosexual Intercourse |
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Not only Coitus |
Coitus is the only form of sexual intercourse that can lead to procreation, and in our culture it has therefore long been extolled as superior. According to Jewish and Christian religious traditions, sex and procreation were meant to be inseparable.
Any sexual activity that, by its very nature, could not lead to pregnancy was considered sinful and had to be discouraged. Indeed, in most Western countries the sin eventually also became a crime. For centuries, noncoital intercourse was considered a serious offense, and the punishment could be very severe. Finally, modern psychiatrists turned the crime into a disease by claiming that adults who did not prefer coitus to any other sexual activity were mentally ill, or at least "immature".
The overemphasis on coitus has needlessly impoverished many lives.
Modern sex therapists have found that the constant preoccupation with penis and vagina and the neglect of other "erogenous zones" of the body can actually make men and women insensitive and thus impair their sexual functioning (see
Course 5). Indeed, as long as coitus is described as the supreme and ultimate form of sexual intercourse, all other forms will obviously have to be considered inferior. At best, they are regarded as "variations" or "substitutions", or as some sort of "prologue" or "epilogue" to the "main event". In other words, couples will still feel obliged to justify their spontaneous sexual experiments by trying to lead up to coitus. They will continue to divide sexual intercourse into acts, chapters, or escalating phases, and they will remain unable to develop their full erotic potential. |
