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性行为的基本类型
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异性性交
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早期性交绘画
岩雕，约公元前1500年
中国广西壮族自治区
承蒙中国古代性文化博物馆允许复制，江苏省吴江市同里镇
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Early depiction of
sexual intercourse
Rock carving, ca. 1500 BC
Guangxi province, China
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按照字典的释义，词条交往（intercourse，自拉丁语intercurrere：在……之间往复）可以是指人与人之间的任何交互作用或沟通。因而，我们通常可以说社会交往（social
intercourse），或更明确地说在相互使眼色的人之间的视觉交流（visual
intercourse），或说在相互交谈的人之间的口头交流（oral
intercourse）和在握手的人之间的手接触交往（manual
intercourse）。不过，许多教科书会以非常狭义的概念来使用这个术语，它们只意谓一种特殊类型的沟通：性交（sexual
intercourse），即性交合（coitus）。
遗憾的是，这种狭义用法现在已经被公众广泛地接纳。例如，普及性的读物常常在“性交（即性交合）（intercourse，即coitus）”和“爱抚（petting）”（其它性亲密行为的所有形式）[1]之间作出区分。许多普及性的读物也断言，“性交”这种充满激情的事件本身应该在之前是“前戏（foreplay）”，之后是“后戏（afterplay）”。简而言之，这些读物暗示唯一算得上真正性接触的就是阴茎与阴道的性交合。
这是一种眼光非常短浅的观点。毕竟，就像我们在第一讲中所知晓的那样，人体的性反应会涉及到全身，而且性高潮能够通过多种不同的形式来获得。性交（性交合）有充分的理由可以是最普通的性接触方式，但是它绝不是唯一的方式。甚至于对许多男女来说，它甚至不是他们所喜欢的方式。更何况，由于一些身体残障、受伤或疾病的原因，世间存在无数在身体方面不能参与性交的人。不过，他们中有许多人能够也确实实践着其它的性交形式[2]，并因而有令人满意的性关系。
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Heterosexual Intercourse |
According to the dictionary, the word intercourse (lat. intercurrere: to run between) can refer to any interchange or communication between persons. Thus, one may speak of social intercourse in general or, more specifically, of visual intercourse between people who wink at each other, of oral intercourse between people who talk to each other, and of manual intercourse between people who shake hands.
However, many textbooks use the term in a much narrower sense. When they mention intercourse, they mean only one particular kind of communication: Sexual intercourse. Indeed, they often mean only one particular kind of sexual intercourse: Vaginal intercourse, i.e. coitus.
Unfortunately, this narrow usage has now been widely accepted by the general public. For example, popular writings often distinguish between "intercourse" (coitus) and "petting" (all other forms of sexual intimacy). They also declare that the dramatic event of "intercourse" itself should be preceded by "foreplay" and followed by "afterplay". In short, they imply that the only sexual contact that really counts is that between penis and vagina.
This is a very shortsighted view. After all, as we have seen in
Course 1, the human sexual response involves the whole body, and orgasm can be reached in many different ways.
Coitus may very well be the most common form of sexual contact, but it is by no means the only one. Indeed, for many men and women it is not even the one they like best. Furthermore, there are countless individuals who are physically unable to engage in coitus because of certain handicaps, injuries, or diseases. Nevertheless, many of them can and do practice other forms of sexual intercourse and thus have satisfying sexual relationships. |
