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性行为的基本类型
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异性性交
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并无单一标准
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正行性交合的夫妻
古希腊花瓶画
柏林，SPK斯泰特尔博物馆
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Couple beginning coitus.
Ancient Greek vase painting,
Staatl Museen zu Berlin, SPK |
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虽然我们对性交的一般定义相对比较容易取得一致的意见，但是，企图把定义标准化[1]，则可能是愚蠢的。从本质上看，人的性是一种私密性的事物。每一个体有不同的性兴趣，因而两对夫妻永远不会以完全相同的方式去做爱。有的夫妻一生中会遵循单一的做爱模式，有的在特殊场合会尝试特殊的做爱方法，还有的夫妻出于对性本身的兴趣恰恰会寻求花样繁多的做爱途径。有的夫妻做爱只需要几分钟甚至数秒钟，还有的夫妻做爱延达数小时。一些男女根本就从来不会重复这种性体验，而其他的男女会在相当长的一段时间里重复这种性体验，更有甚者，还有一些男女在多年里每天持续发生数次性交。
只要他们对直接参与的做爱感到心满意足，上述的任何选择都没有对错之分，并且遵照任何“权威”告诉的方法行事都是荒谬的。尽管如此，西方历史上长期以来，只是把性交合，即只是把生殖的性交称颂为“正常的(natural)”和值得接受的行为。幸运的是，在此期间，大多数宗教、法律和医学权威们已经采取了更为开明的态度。他们认识到了性关系涉及到作为一个完整个体的每一个性伴侣，他们还认识到了把性接触限定在身体的特殊部位才是完全不正常的。因而，至少在实践中，性行为的实验研究现在已经得到了广泛的认同。
下面的内容对一些性交方式做一些展开性的描述，既不对生殖也不对性高潮作任何特别的强调。整个内容除了对性交方式所带来的相互愉悦作必要的描述以外，并不试图确定性交的什么标准、规范或目标。
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Basic Types of Sexual Behavior |
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No Single Standard |
While it is relatively easy to agree on a general definition of sexual intercourse, it would be foolish to attempt a standard description of it. Among human beings, sex is essentially a personal matter. Each individual has different sexual interests, and therefore no two couples ever make love in quite the same way. Some follow a single pattern throughout their lives, some try specific approaches on specific occasions, and some just go on seeking variety for its own sake. There are couples who need only a few minutes or even seconds for their lovemaking, and there are others who prolong it for hours. Some men and women never repeat the experience at all, others repeat it at rather long intervals, and still others continue to have sexual intercourse several times a day for many years.
There is nothing wrong with any of these choices as long as they are satisfying to those directly involved, and it is preposterous for any “authority” to tell them otherwise. Still, for long periods of Western history only coitus, i.e. procreative intercourse was proclaimed “natural” and
acceptable. Fortunately, in the meantime, most religious, legal, and medical authorities have adopted a more enlightened attitude. They realize that a sexual relationship involves each partner as a whole person, and that the demand to restrict sexual contact to specific areas of the body is, in itself, unnatural. Thus, at least in practice, sexual experimentation has now become widely accepted.
The following sections offer a few broad hints at some forms of sexual intercourse without any special emphasis on either reproduction or orgasm. The text makes no attempt to establish any standard, norm, or goal of sexual intercourse except that of mutual pleasure. |
