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性行為的基本類型
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異性性交:
異性生殖器性交
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性交合
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正在性交合的夫妻
（西元1世紀中國東漢時期的飾紋磚）蒙中國古代性文化博物館（江蘇吳江市同裏鎮）惠允。
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Couple engaging in coitus.
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性交合的技巧
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在一些陳舊的婚姻指南裏，不僅鼓勵夫妻只為性高潮而奮鬥，而且鼓勵他們同時達到性高潮。作為一種獎勵，保證他們能夠得到徹底的狂喜體驗。但是，實際上，這種建議所產生的效果弊大於利，而且要推定為什麼是這樣的結果則非常容易。首先，它不僅強調性行為的過程，而且強調性行為的結果。第二，它迫使性伴雙方採取一種工於心計的態度，即斷定他們（在性交合中）會一直處於支配地位的態度。於是，這樣的態度常常從根本上妨礙了他們獲得任何的性高潮。最後，這樣的建議會使那些未能讓他們的性反應同步的男女感到失落。
讓人感到幸運的是，這種對性交合的機械主義的處事方法已經不再時興了。與此同時，大多數“性學專家們”已經變得更加地務實，並因而認識到：同步性高潮並不是完美性關係的驗證標準。事實上，現在有越來越多的人領會到，完全不要再擔憂性高潮才是明智之舉。與之不同的是，性愛雙方出於對親昵行為本身的興趣，要學會盡情享受親昵行為的每一時刻，不要試圖完成或證明什麼特別的東西。令人感到自相矛盾的是，事實證明提供這種最大性滿足的，恰恰是這種不苛求的、從容不迫的做愛遊戲。這樣的做愛遊戲常常有助於消除長久以來被抑制的性反應，並因而增強一個人的性能力。自然而然地，它同樣會帶來更多的性高潮（欲知詳情，請參見“性功能障礙及其治療”）。 |
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Couple engaging in coitus.
Sculptured brick, Eastern Han Dynasty, 1st century A.D.,
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Techniques of Coitus 5
In some older marital guides, couples were urged not only to strive for orgasm, but also to reach their orgasms simultaneously. As a reward, they were promised an experience of total ecstasy. In actual fact, however, this advice did more harm than good, and it is easy to understand why. First of all, it put the emphasis not on the sexual process, but on its result. Secondly, it forced both partners to adopt a calculating attitude that would allow them to remain in control at all times. Such an attitude then often prevented them from having any orgasm at all. Finally, those men and women who failed to synchronize their responses were made to feel inadequate.
It is fortunate that this mechanistic approach to coitus has gone out of fashion. In the meantime, most "sex experts" have become more realistic and therefore regognize:
Simultaneous orgasms are no proof of a perfect relationship.
As a matter of fact, there is now a growing realization that it is better to stop worrying about orgasms altogether. Instead, couples learn to savor every moment of intimacy for its own sake without trying to achieve or prove anything in particular. Paradoxically, it has turned out that it is this nondemanding, leisurely loveplay that provides the deepest satisfaction. It often helps to unblock long inhibited sexual responses and thus increases a person's erotic capacities. Naturally, it also leads to more orgasms (for details, see "Sexual Dysfunctions and their Treatment"). |
