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性行為的基本類型
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異性性交:
異性生殖器性交
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性交合
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性交合
站位
[由日本藝術大師葛飾北齋（1760-1849）所繪的絲綢幽默畫] |
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Coitus: Standing position
Humorous
silk scroll
painting by
the great
Japanese
artist
Katushika
Hokusai
(1760-1849) |
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性交合的技巧
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遺憾的是，許多男女因過度關注性高潮而降低了性交合的樂趣。因為男性確信他們能夠相對較快地達到性高潮，他們想知道自己是否會堅持到足夠時間以滿足自己的性伴。另一方面，女性可能擔心她們的性高潮來得不夠快，或者可能擔心她們根本就不會有性高潮。毋庸置疑，這種內心的擔憂可能嚴重地干擾一對夫妻的性交流，甚至使正常的性功能不能正常發揮。
大多數夫妻如果集中更多的注意力在性交合本身的過程，並較少關注性交合的可能結果，他們也許會得到更大的性快樂。不存在什麼定律設定性高潮必定是每一次性偶遇的目標。甚至，當一提到做愛，如果人們從根本上想要爭取任何特殊的目標，他們就會給自己造成損害。性高潮是分享肉體愉悅的體驗過程，而不是孜孜以求的“高峰體驗”和“成功的”終點。因而，對於有經驗的愛人來說，性張力技巧的積累比性高潮的終極釋放要重要得多。性高潮發生在不知不覺的性刺激高峰時才是一件了不得的事情；它並不是必須要為之而戰和必定要贏的一件獎品。 |
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Basic Types of Sexual Behavior |
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2.
Heterosexual Intercourse: Genital
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Coitus |
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Techniques of
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Unfortunately, many
men and women diminish their enjoyment
of coitus by an overconcern with orgasm.
Since men know that they can reach
orgasm relatively quickly, they may
wonder whether they will last long
enough to satisfy their partners. Women,
on the other hand, may fear that
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their orgasm will not
come soon enough, or that they will have
no orgasm at all. Needless to say, such
secret worries can seriously interfere
with a couple's communication and even
make normal sexual functioning
impossible.
It
seems that most couples would find
greater sexual happiness if they
concentrated more on the process of
coitus itself and less on its possible
outcome.
There is no law that says orgasm has to
be the goal of every sexual encounter.
Indeed, when it comes to making love,
people do themselves a disservice if
they strive for any specific goal at
all. It is the shared experience of
physical pleasure, not its "climax" or
"successful" finale that makes coitus
worthwhile. Thus, for experienced lovers
the artful build-up of tension is more
important than its eventual release.
Orgasm is simply something that happens
involuntarily at the height of sexual
stimulation; it is not a prize that has
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