被禁止的性行為與性暴力

成人與兒童的性接觸: 亂倫: 有關的心理方面

在大多數國家，亂倫是一種犯罪行為，但是因為它通常都是私下發生的，就難以被揭露和被指控。大多數確實進入刑法法庭之前的亂倫案例都涉及到父親及其年輕的女兒。在一些案例裏，受害的女孩甚至還沒有發育到青春期。但是，這通常並不意味著當事的父親就是孌童癖者。（那些為了達到接近一名婦女的孩子的目的而與她結婚的這種例外的例子裏，當事的男人是孌童癖者。）通常，當事的父親只是利用一個毫無防備而方便的性對象而已。而且這恰恰是他為什麼對待他的孩子的原因——作為他的自我原欲（egotistical desire）[1]的發洩對象。他也許會利用奉承、允諾、欺騙、脅迫、強迫、恐嚇甚或直接的強制力，而且，如果這種亂倫仍舊沒有敗露，可能持續許多年。

就女兒方面來說，亂倫的體驗從心理上看幾乎始終是毀滅性的。如果她就這個變故從根本上要成功克服心理創傷，可能要多年時間。她也可能會因為自己的母親“顧及了他人”和沒有幫助自己而責備母親（有時責備是合乎道理的）。總而言之，父女之間的亂倫在一個家庭裏會造成一種無法容忍的家庭氣氛。（母子之間的亂倫後果嚴重程度可能較輕一些，不過，無論如何也是非常罕見的。）

因種種原因，一些家庭要告發亂倫罪犯會猶豫不決。他們可能需要家裏的這個養家活口的人（breadwinner），害怕外界的流言蜚語，或寄希望於“私了”。的確，審判和判刑尚不足以解決這樣的案例。所有家庭成員，包括這名父親在內，如果尚存一丁點兒相互信任的話，都需要心理諮詢的幫助。不過，最經常的情形是，他們的關係會被損害到難以修復的程度。

Prohibited Sexual Behavior and Sexual Violence

Adult Sexual Contact with Children: Incest: Psychological Aspects

Incest is a crime in most countries, but since it usually takes place in private, it is not easily discovered and prosecuted. Most cases of incest that do come before a criminal court involve fathers and their young daughters. In some cases, the girls have not even reached puberty. However, this usually does not mean that the father is a pedophile. (The exceptions are pedophiles who marry a woman for the purpose of getting close to her children.) As a rule, the father simply takes advantage of a defenseless and easily available sexual object. And this is indeed how he treats his child - as an object of his egotistical desire. He may use flattery, promises, deception, intimidation, coercion, threats or even outright force, and if the incest remains undiscovered, it may continue for years.
For the daughter, the experience is almost always psychologically devastating. It may take her many years to overcome her trauma, if she succeeds in this at all. She may also blame her mother – sometimes with good reason – for having “looked the other way” and having failed to help her. All in all, father-daughter incest creates an intolerable situation within a family. (Mother-son incest may have less serious consequences, but is, in any case, quite rare.)
Some families are, for a variety of reasons, reluctant to report the crime. They may need their breadwinner, fear the inevitable scandal, or hope to “handle it themselves”. Certainly, a trial and a conviction are not sufficient to resolve such a case. All family members, including the father, need psychological help if they are ever to regain a minimum of mutual trust. Very often, however, their relationship is damaged beyond repair.