性行为的发展

对于许多男女来说，青春期是他们与另一个人第一次性接触的时期。这个时期是他们“坠入情网”和发现他们生理反应“真相”的意义的时候。我们前面阐述的性别角色脚本形成中所谓“性的”含义也揭示了它本身的意思：已经灌输给男女青少年的这种行为差异，现在以崭新的面目和强化的方式呈现在他们相互的性吸引之中。其结果是，他们开始有能力从容谨慎地从事人际间的性欲行为。

但是，青春期也是“脚本混淆（script confusion）”的“规整”时期，也就是说，是年轻人必须在许多竞争的性脚本之间做出选择的时期。同时，他们必须处理其它的难题——逐渐从父母那里获得自立、在结交异性成员时缺乏经验、关于人体性解剖和性生理细节的好奇、需要更多自由的强烈愿望及对约束的逆反、逐渐不再相信所有的权威、在社会“找到自己适当的位置”的愿望并规划自己的将来、在争取个人独立之时被伙伴接纳的需要，等等。简而言之，当青春少年/少女的身体正经历重大的变化之时，他们每次都必须发展新的社会生活技能并学习大量涉及自我的和这个世界的知识。

因而，在当代世界，青春期是一个挑战人际关系中的老老少少诸如此类难题的时期。因为父母与其他成人想要保护青年人，他们通常会劝阻早期任何的性体验，但是这些做法常常让人感到保护过头甚至是压制。不管怎样说，无论成年人赞成与否，大多数青春少年/少女不久就会有第一次性交[1]。

Stages of Development: Adolescence

Erotic Behavior 2

For many females and males, adolescence is the time of their first sexual contact with another person. It is a time when they “fall in love” and discover the “true” significance of some of their physical responses. The “sexual” meaning of the preceding gender role scripting also reveals itself: The behavioral differences that have been cultivated in girls and boys now appear in a new light and reinforce the mutual attraction between female and male adolescents. As a result, they become capable of - and interested in - deliberate interpersonal erotic behavior.
However, adolescence is also the “classical” period of “script confusion”, i.e. a time when young people must choose between many competing sexual scripts. Simultaneously, they have to deal with other issues  - the gradual emancipation form their parents, the lack of experience in approaching the other sex, a curiosity about the details of human sexual anatomy and physiology, a desire for more personal freedom and a rebellion against restrictions, a growing distrust of all authority, the wish to find one’s “proper place in the world” and to plan for the future, the need to be accepted by one’s peers while striving for one’s own independence, etc. In short, adolescents must develop new social skills and learn a great deal about themselves and the world at a time when their bodies are undergoing significant changes.
Thus, in our modern world, adolescence is a trying period for young and old alike. Parents and other adults usually discourage any early sexual experimentation, because they want to protect the young, but these often feel overprotected and even oppressed. In any case, most of them soon have their first sexual intercourse with or without adult approval.