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性行為的基本類型
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異性性交
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性交合
由達-芬奇（Leonardo
da Vinci,
1452 - 1519）所畫的解剖學圖。英國王室溫莎公爵藏。 |
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Coitus
Anatomical drawing by Leonardo da Vinci
(1452 - 1519)
Windsor, British Royal Collection |
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性交合（coitus）是能夠導致生殖的唯一的性交形式，而且在我們的文化中它因而長期以來被吹捧為高級的性交方式。按照猶太教和基督教的傳統教義，性與生殖是不可分割的。以其根本的本性來說，任何不能導致懷孕的性活動曾經被認為是有罪的和必須要予以勸阻的。甚至在大多數西方國家裏，這種罪過最後也變成了一種犯罪。數個世紀以來，非性交合的性交（noncoital
intercourse）[1]曾被認為是一種嚴重違背道德的事情，因而要受到非常嚴厲的懲罰。最終，現代精神病學家把這種所謂的罪行轉變為一種疾病，他們聲稱不喜歡性交而願意選擇任何其它性活動方式的成人是精神上有病，或至少是“不成熟的”。
對性交合的過度強調不必要地耗費了千千萬萬人的人生。現代性治療師已經發現，持續地專注於陰莖與陰道的性交和忽視身體其它部位的“性敏感區”，實際上可能使男女產生性感覺遲鈍，並因而損害他們的性功能（參見第五講）。只要性交合被描述為性交的最高和最終的形式，其它所有形式的性交就會顯而易見地必定被認為是低級的形式。至多，它們只會被當作“變異的形式”或“替代的形式”，或被當作針對“主場戲（main
event）”[2]的某種“開場白”或“終曲”。換一句話說，夫妻仍會覺得他們要設法通過性交合來促成自然而然的性體驗，唯有如此才是正當的。他們會繼續把性交劃分為開演戲、篇章戲或漸進高潮的主場戲，而且仍就不能開發出他們全部的性潛能。
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Not only Coitus |
Coitus is the only form of sexual intercourse that can lead to procreation, and in our culture it has therefore long been extolled as superior. According to Jewish and Christian religious traditions, sex and procreation were meant to be inseparable.
Any sexual activity that, by its very nature, could not lead to pregnancy was considered sinful and had to be discouraged. Indeed, in most Western countries the sin eventually also became a crime. For centuries, noncoital intercourse was considered a serious offense, and the punishment could be very severe. Finally, modern psychiatrists turned the crime into a disease by claiming that adults who did not prefer coitus to any other sexual activity were mentally ill, or at least "immature".
The overemphasis on coitus has needlessly impoverished many lives.
Modern sex therapists have found that the constant preoccupation with penis and vagina and the neglect of other "erogenous zones" of the body can actually make men and women insensitive and thus impair their sexual functioning (see
Course 5). Indeed, as long as coitus is described as the supreme and ultimate form of sexual intercourse, all other forms will obviously have to be considered inferior. At best, they are regarded as "variations" or "substitutions", or as some sort of "prologue" or "epilogue" to the "main event". In other words, couples will still feel obliged to justify their spontaneous sexual experiments by trying to lead up to coitus. They will continue to divide sexual intercourse into acts, chapters, or escalating phases, and they will remain unable to develop their full erotic potential. |
