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性行為的基本類型
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異性性交: 異性手交
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女對男手交
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擠壓技術
有困難適時調整自己性高潮的男性，可以通過由性治療師常常推薦的方法得到幫助：女方對男方施行手的刺激，直到臨近性高潮為止，不過隨後要運用“擠壓”技術。通過在這裏顯示的擠壓壓陰莖的方法，女方可以協助男方延緩他的性高潮。 (欲知詳情，請參見此處) |
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因為傳統的婚姻指導手冊曾經把妻子描繪成性生活的被動者，這些手冊也很少包含妻子應該刺激丈夫的性器官的任何建議。但是，許多男性喜歡讓他們的陰莖得到觸摸和撫弄。的確，再也沒有其它的性愛撫會導致男性如此快速地達到性喚起了。當然，想要對男方進行有效的手交刺激（masturbate）的女方，應該確切地問問男方，怎樣想讓自己握持和撫摸他的陰莖。女方通過把自己的手指塗抹一些唾液或利用一些水基人造潤滑液，她常常也能夠提升男方的愉悅程度。當男方以這種方式被女方進行手交刺激的時候，如果他達到了性高潮，在可能有另一次勃起之前，正常情況下需要花一些時間來恢復。然而，如果女方有性欲的話，男方仍能夠讓她獲得性滿足，顯然，刺激方法就是手交和口交了。
一些女性對操弄男性的陰莖感到勉為其難，因為她們認為這樣的行為不適合女性，是孩子氣十足，或者令人憎惡。她們也可能認為“真正的”男人決不會允許自己以這種方式被利用。不過，這些女性也許會記憶猶新，綜觀人類的歷史，男性恰恰為了這種服務而付錢給妓女，甚至今天一些按摩店仍然從這種服務獲得了巨大的收入。
正如已經提及的那樣，手交的治療價值不再受到性學研究者質疑了，而且許多治療師現在也勸告他們的病人在接受治療期間練習手交。對於這種勸告的理由其實簡簡單單：已經學會了用手觸摸對方而相互給予性愉悅的男女，通常也準備好了會施行其它大多數形式的性交行為。 |
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Basic Types of Sexual Behavior |
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2. Heterosexual Intercourse: Manual Intercourse |
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Squeeze Technique.
Men who have difficulty timing their orgasms may be helped by a method often recommended by sex therapists: The woman masturbates the man close to orgasm, but then applies the “squeeze”. By squeezing the penis in the way shown in this illustration, a woman can help her partner to delay his orgasm.
(For details, see
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Since the traditional marriage manuals usually described the wife as sexually passive, they also rarely contained any suggestion that she should stimulate the sex organs of her husband. However, many men enjoy having their penises touched and fondled. Indeed, no other caresses lead so quickly to male sexual arousal. A woman who wants to masturbate a man effectively should, of course, ask him exactly how he wants her to hold and stroke his penis. Very often she can also heighten his pleasure by applying some saliva to her fingers or using some water-based artificial lubricant. If the man reaches orgasm while being masturbated in this fashion, he normally needs some time before he can have another erection. Nevertheless, he is still capable of satisfying the woman if she so desires. In this case, the obvious techniques are manual and oral intercourse.
Some women are reluctant to manipulate a man's penis because they believe that such behavior is unfeminine, childish, or wicked. They may also think that no "real" man would ever allow himself to be "used" this way. However, these women would do well to remember that, throughout history, men have paid prostitutes for this very service, and that even today certain massage parlors continue to derive a great deal of income from it.
As already mentioned, for modern sex researchers the therapeutic value of manual intercourse is no longer in doubt, and many therapists now advise their patients to practice it during their treatment. The reason for this advice is simple: A man and a woman who have learned to give each other pleasure by the touch of their hands are usually also well prepared to make the most of all other forms of sexual intercourse. |
