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First Coitus
It is easy enough to start coitus, but, as with all other forms of sexual intercourse, complete mutual satisfaction is almost always the result of practice and experience. Young people especially often tend to expect too much too soon. Most boys and girls think, dream, and even talk about their first coitus long before it actually occurs, and their hopes, fears, and fantasies can turn the eventual real experience into something of an anticlimax. A good example is the great significance that is usually attributed to a girl's "defloration", i.e., the rupturing of her hymen. The hymen may, of course, be ruptured by the use of tampons, by masturbation, or as a result of certain athletic activities. Still, in most females it remains more or less intact until that moment when a penis is first inserted into the vagina. Many adolescents have exaggerated and unrealistic ideas about this moment and may, in fact, worry about it years in advance. Thus, a boy may wonder if his penis will ever be hard enough to penetrate the hymen, and a girl may anticipate some painful physical injury. However, none of these worries are justified. There is no need for males to be tough and brutal because the hymen normally ruptures very easily. Indeed, a gradual, slow, and gentle approach is best. Females, on the other hand, may experience some discomfort and slight bleeding, but they need not fear any great pain. Only in very rare cases does the hymen prove to be too thick for penetration, but then a physician can easily solve the problem in his office by a simple surgical procedure.
Various shapes of the hymen
The hymen differs from one female to another.
It may almost totally close the vaginal opening, or it may have several small or even one large hole in it.
In the latter case, it may seem broken when it is actually still intact.
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