Basic Types of Sexual  Behavior

2. Heterosexual Intercourse: Manual Intercourse

Female-Male

Squeeze Technique. Men who have difficulty timing their orgasms may be helped by a method often recommended by sex therapists: The woman masturbates the man close to orgasm, but then applies the “squeeze”. By squeezing the penis in the way shown in this illustration, a woman can help her partner to delay his orgasm. (For details, see here.)

Since the traditional marriage manuals usually described the wife as sexually passive, they also rarely contained any suggestion that she should stimulate the sex organs of her husband. However, many men enjoy having their penises touched and fondled. Indeed, no other caresses lead so quickly to male sexual arousal. A woman who wants to masturbate a man effectively should, of course, ask him exactly how he wants her to hold and stroke his penis. Very often she can also heighten his pleasure by applying some saliva to her fingers or using some water-based artificial lubricant. If the man reaches orgasm while being masturbated in this fashion, he normally needs some time before he can have another erection. Nevertheless, he is still capable of satisfying the woman if she so desires. In this case, the obvious techniques are manual and oral intercourse.
Some women are reluctant to manipulate a man's penis because they believe that such behavior is unfeminine, childish, or wicked. They may also think that no "real" man would ever allow himself to be "used" this way. However, these women would do well to remember that, throughout history, men have paid prostitutes for this very service, and that even today certain massage parlors continue to derive a great deal of income from it.
As already mentioned, for modern sex researchers the therapeutic value of manual intercourse is no longer in doubt, and many therapists now advise their patients to practice it during their treatment. The reason for this advice is simple: A man and a woman who have learned to give each other pleasure by the touch of their hands are usually also well prepared to make the most of all other forms of sexual intercourse.