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Pashtun (Pakistan, Afghanistan)
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See also: Afghanistan
Lindholm (1982:p134-5)[1] states that a groom
“[…] visits his bride on the third
night, a visit eagerly awaited by his sisters, who may drill a hole in the
wall in order to view the defloration. The bride, if she is a khan woman,
probably will be completely inexperienced sexually. Her mother has given her
instructions on the proper treatment of a husband, but this counsel is
primarily magical in nature and concerns ways in which the man can be kept in
the woman’s power. […] But practical advice about sex, according to elite
women, is nonexistent. The bride awaits her husband, whom she may have never
seen before, in an agony of fear that he may not like her, that he may
humiliate her by taking another wife. The husband, often a decade or so older
and with some sexual experience, may arrive inebriated. He gives the girl a
gift of some sweets and a watch or some jewelry. He then should have sex with
his new and very young wife”.
Anderson[2]:
“Because
marriages consecrate rather than create unities, the length of time taken in
putting together a particular match is a measure of what is being
accomplished. Some matches are arranged in childhood by brothers or first
cousins who wish to keep their families together and, occasionally, by men
who wish to make a close personal friendship between themselves (also dostiy) more substantial. More
commonly, however, engagements are sealed after long negotiations”.
Barth[3]:
“If,
as is usually the case, the couple are both sexually mature, the nik[unavailable] ceremony is repeated,
in case the boy, unwittingly or as an oath or curse, should have divorced his
wife since the betrothal ceremony. By Moslem law, most kinds of divorce
create a legal ban on re-marriage with the same woman—however, as the
“marriage” solemnized at the betrothal ceremony has not yet been consummated,
this question does not arise. If one or both spouses are still children, the nik[unavailable] is postponed till
such time as the parents of the boy permit consummation”.
Janssen,
D. F., Growing Up Sexually. VolumeI. World Reference Atlas. 0.2 ed. 2004. Berlin:
Magnus Hirschfeld Archive for Sexology, Berlin
Last
revised: Sept 2004
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