The Treatment of Sexual Dysfunctions - Sex Therapy

The “Classic” Dysfunctions - The Treatment of Female Sexual Dysfunctions

Absence of Orgasm - Treatment

Mutual Pleasuring Exercises
The first of these exercises consists simply of touching and stroking the body in a relaxed and non-demanding way. This allows the couple to discover their erogenous zones and to feel sensual pleasure without any pressure to perform. When pleasuring each other in this fashion, the partners can gently guide each other's hands in order to increase their enjoyment. In addition, they are often encouraged to use some massaging oil or body lotion which may help the woman overcome her fear of sex as "wet" and "messy". After a few days of these exercises, the couple can begin to concentrate on stimulating the female sex organs. The best way to do this is for the man to sit directly behind the woman who spreads her legs by throwing them over his thighs. This position enables the man to hold the woman reassuringly close while he manipulates her breasts and her vulva. The woman, in turn, can guide the man's hands to those areas of her body that give her the greatest pleasure. At the same time, she can teach him to avoid stroking the sensitive glans of her clitoris directly and to caress instead the general area of the clitoris and the minor lips (labia minora). As she becomes sexually excited, her vagina begins to lubricate naturally, and this lubrication can then be spread to the clitoral area to reduce the possibility of irritation. Both partners are warned, however, not to strive for orgasm. Instead, they are encouraged to relish their sexual feelings and to abandon themselves to the pleasures of the moment.