男女性功能障碍 -性功能障碍

我们能够做什么？

忽视僵化的性角色
例如，性活动中男主动和女被动的僵化性角色，如果遵从这种性角色，那么男女都会模式化自己的行为，在性活动中常常过于拘谨。一个始终被指望发起性交活动的男子，一个绝不被允许“取下卧位”的男子，他可能会开始担心履行后续职责的能力。事实上，这种担忧最终可能演变为对失败的明显恐惧。继而，这种恐惧阻断了他的正常性反应，并由此而不能满足他的性伴。另一方面，一个被告知采取主动即非淑女的女子，可能竭力克制住自己，并且在其不自然的被动性面前变得如此有挫败感，以致于性行为成了一种不愉快的和得不偿失的体验。毫不奇怪，她随后也会有性功能障碍出现。对这两种病例的治疗之道则显而易见：有意识地暂时调转男女的性角色以缓解性焦虑和性挫败感，那么被抑制的性反应就会再度被激发。

Female and Male Sexual Dysfunctions -
Sexual Dysfunctions

What can be done?

Ignore Female/Male Stereotypes
For example, the stereotypes of the sexually active male and the passive female, after which men and women try to model themselves, are often too confining. A man who is always expected to initiate coitus, and who is never allowed to "take it lying down," may begin to worry about his continued ability to perform. In fact, eventually this worry is likely to grow into an outright fear of failure. This fear, in turn, then blocks his natural sexual responses, and thus he becomes unable to satisfy his partner. A woman, on the other hand, who is told that taking the initiative is unfeminine may try very hard to restrain herself and become so frustrated in her artificial passivity that sexual intercourse becomes unpleasant and unrewarding. Not surprisingly, she then also becomes dysfunctional. The solution in both of these cases is obvious: A conscious temporary reversal of attitudes relieves anxiety and frustration, and the inhibited sexual responses are set free again.