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The Treatment of Sexual Dysfunctions
- Sex Therapy |
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The “Classic” Dysfunctions - The
Treatment of Male Sexual Dysfunctions |
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Problems of Tumescence:
Lack of
Erection - Psychological and Behavioral
Therapy
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3.
Non-demanding Coitus
About a week
later, when the man has overcome his
fear of failure and has begun to have
confidence in his responses, the couple
may proceed to
coitus in a deliberate and non-demanding
fashion. Again,
the woman takes the initiative. While
the man remains passive lying
on his back, she sits on top of him and
masturbates him until he has an
erection. She then lowers herself onto
the erect penis and inserts it into her
vagina. After the insertion, she remains
still for a while, so that the man can
get used to the feeling of being inside
her. Within a few minutes, she begins to
move slowly, thus stimulating the penis
and keeping it erect. Should the
erection be lost, she simply moves off
the penis and masturbates it again until
it is hard. Usually, however, the man
will be able to keep his erection as
long as the woman avoids quick and
vigorous movements. Eventually, part of
the initiative may be shifted to the
man. That is to say, the woman remains
in a position above her partner and she
still inserts his penis into her vagina,
but, after a while, she stops her gentle
thrusting and allows him to move back
and forth inside of her.
Both partners stay under orders,
however, not to aim for orgasm.
When either of the partners does have an
orgasm, it should be regarded as a
pleasant surprise. Once a couple has
learned to relax in this manner, they
are usually also delighted to find that
the penis can stay erect inside the
vagina as long as either of them may
wish. Finally, with their confidence
strengthened, they are ready to make the
most of each coitus and also to
experiment freely with different coital
positions. |
