The Treatment of Sexual Dysfunctions - Sex Therapy

The “Classic” Dysfunctions - The Treatment of Female Sexual Dysfunctions

Problems of Orgasm - Unsatisfactory Timing of Orgasm in Women
The expression “unsatisfactory timing of orgasm” can help sex therapists to ask the most important questions: “Unsatisfactory to whom? To her? To him? To both?”

These questions also remind us that we are dealing here with subjective judgements of the sexual partners involved. Furthermore, the problem arises only between two individuals. There is no such thing as unsatisfactory timing of orgasm in “solitary sex”.

There are women who are much slower in reaching orgasm than most men. As long as such women only pleasure themselves, they have no reason to feel inadequate. It is only when they begin sexual intercourse that they may find themselves at a disadvantage. Their male partners may reach orgasm much sooner than they and therefore leave them unsatisfied. In the past, it was customary to define this problem exclusively in terms of male failure. Today, however, we understand that it is more helpful and realistic to see it as a problem of male-female mutual adjustment. After all, given the proper stimulation, the average female can respond just as quickly as the average male.