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The Treatment of Sexual Dysfunctions
- Sex Therapy |
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The “Classic” Dysfunctions - The
Treatment of Female Sexual Dysfunctions |
Problems of
Orgasm - Unsatisfactory Timing of Orgasm
in Women
The expression
“unsatisfactory timing of orgasm” can
help sex therapists to ask the most
important questions:
“Unsatisfactory
to whom? To her? To him? To both?”These questions
also remind us that we are dealing here
with subjective judgements of the sexual
partners involved. Furthermore, the
problem arises only between two
individuals.
There is no
such thing as unsatisfactory timing of
orgasm in “solitary sex”.
There are women
who are much slower in reaching orgasm
than most men. As long as such women
only pleasure themselves, they have no
reason to feel inadequate. It is only
when they begin sexual intercourse that
they may find themselves at a
disadvantage. Their male partners may
reach orgasm much sooner than they and
therefore leave them unsatisfied. In the
past, it was customary to define this
problem exclusively in terms of male
failure. Today, however, we understand
that it is more helpful and realistic to
see it as a
problem of male-female mutual adjustment.
After all, given the proper stimulation,
the average female can respond just as
quickly as the average male.
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