然而，現代性治療師已經指出，當性伴在性行為方法上恢復了協調和接納了不同的性態度時，許多性功能障礙就會消失。首要的一點，這就意味著性功能障礙者不再把自己置於通常的“履行任務的壓力”之下。

轉變的心態
在性治療的訓練課程中，現在常常要求男女雙方在性行為中有意地避免性高潮。例如，可能告訴這對夫婦參與相互的愉悅，但是其中之一一接近性高潮就中斷相互的愉悅行為。某些性治療師甚至要求得更為嚴格，以至於禁止他們的客戶達到性高潮，而與此同時，要求其客戶循序漸進地從相互觸摸到相互愛撫每天達數小時。這種簡單的強化訓練課常常產生引人注目的效果。性伴雙方在卸除所“履行的職責”後，他們在其生活中第一次可以放棄性快樂了，所以他們可以相互把全部心態從性快樂專注于對方。這種新的心態然後會成為極大增加了的性高潮潛能的源泉。最後，在數周以後，當性反應已經得到恢復的時候，性治療師就會撤出發生性高潮的禁令，性高潮變得規律起來，受歡迎的體驗預期而至，性高潮的發生時機不再成為一個問題。然而，出於同樣的原因，性高潮體驗現在已經從履行職責轉化為隨機的選擇了。與別的正予產生的愉悅感覺的持續過程比較起來，性高潮就是一個可多可少、可有可無的非緊要的事情了。最主要的是，性伴雙方已經認識到了他們不必同時或在每一次性交往的過程中都要達到性高潮。偶爾沒有性高潮並不必然會減少幸福感。畢竟，做愛既不是一場戰鬥也不是一場體育競賽。成功感或成就感並不取決於幸福的性關係。

Modern sex therapists have shown, however, that many sexual dysfunctions disappear when the partners redress the imbalance in their approach and adopt a different attitude. This means, above all, that they no longer put themselves under the usual "pressure to perform".

Changing Attitudes
In therapy programs both the man and the woman are now often asked to deliberately avoid orgasm in their sexual intercourse. For example, the couple may be told to engage in extended mutual pleasuring, but to interrupt their physical contact as soon as either of them approaches orgasm. Some therapists even go so far as to prohibit their clients from reaching orgasm while at the same time ordering them to touch and caress each other for several hours every day. This simple regimen often produces dramatic results. Relieved of their "duty to perform," both partners may, for the first time in their lives, abandon themselves to sexual pleasure, and therefore they may change their whole attitude toward each other. This new attitude then becomes the source of a greatly increased orgasmic potential. Finally, after a few weeks, when the sexual response has been restored and the therapist has lifted the prohibition, orgasm becomes a regular, welcome experience, and its timing is no longer a problem. By the same token, however, this experience has now turned from an obligation into an option. Orgasm is nothing more and nothing less than a delightful interruption of an otherwise continuous process of generating pleasurable sensations. Most importantly, the partners have learned that they do not have to reach orgasm simultaneously or in every sexual encounter. An occasional lack of orgasm need not diminish their happiness. After all, making love is neither a battle nor an athletic competition. Notions of success or achievement have no place in a happy sexual relationship.