Robert T. Francoeur, PhD CATHOLIC CULTURE
AND SEXUALITY
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Basic Issue/Factor |
Type A Christian Beliefs |
Type B Christian Beliefs |
Basic World Vision |
A finished and fixed cosmos, not evolving but waiting for the Second Apocalyptic Coming of Jesus |
A cosmogenesis, an evolving universe struggling to fulfill the Incarnation of Jesus' love in the world |
Typology |
Like the universe, humankind was created perfect and complete in the Beginning. Theological understanding of humans emphasizes Adam, the mythic first human |
Like the universe, humankind is incomplete and not yet fully evolved. Theological emphasis shifts to the Second Adam, Jesus, at the end of time |
Origin of Evil |
Evil results from primeval "fall" of a perfect first couple who introduced moral and physical evil into Eden/Paradise |
Evil, pain, and suffering are a natural part of a finite creation/growth and the birth pains that are involved in our groping as still-evolving humans |
Solution to the Problem of Evil |
Redemption by identification with the crucified Savior. Asceticism and mortification of the body and its sensual nature |
Identification with The Adam, the resurrected Jesus, model of the recreated human |
Authority System |
Patriarchal and sexist. Male-dominated and controlled. Autocratic male hierarchy makes all decisions. Male clergy distinct from the laity |
Gender egalitarian: "In His kingdom there is neither male nor female, freeman nor slave, Jew nor Roman" |
Concept of Truth |
Emphasis on "one true Church" as the sole possessor of all truth in a sacred text "Absolutist and exclusive." |
Recognition that other churches and religions possess different perspectives of the truth, with some elements of revelation clearer in them than in "the one true Church" |
Concept of Sacred Texts |
Fundamentalist, often evangelical, word-for-word (literal) clarity. Revelation ended with the Apostles |
Emphasis on continuing revelation and reincarnation of perennial truths and values as humans interpret tradition and participate in an ongoing creation and revelation |
Liturgical Focus |
Redemption and Good Friday. Purgatory. The supernatural as distinct from the natural |
Easter and the creation challenge of incarnation. Epiphany of numinous cosmos and God within |
Social Structure |
Gender roles clearly assigned with high definition of proper roles for men and women |
With Jesus not making a distinction between men and women, gender roles are flexible and allow women roles as ordained priests, ministers, and even bishops. |
Ecological Morality |
Humans are stewards of the Earth, given dominion by God over all creation |
Emphasis on personal responsibility in a continuing creation/incarnation. |
Community Image |
Carefully limited, emphasis on individual Isaiah "remnant." Results in exclusive sects |
Inclusive, ecumenical, catalytic leader among equals |
Goal of Life |
Supernatural transcendence of natural world |
Unveiling, epiphany, revelation of the divine in all creation |
Sexual Morality and Ethics |
Focuses on laws and conformity of all genital acts and erotic pleasures to those laws |
Emphasis on persons and the Christian qualities we express in our relationships. With God, we create the human of the future and the future of our humanity. |
Sexual Morality |
Sex is the "monster in the groin," that must be controlled, abstained from, and mortified. |
Sexuality is a positive, natural, creative energy in our being as sexual (embodied) persons. It is in the biblical sense intimately "knowing" another person and becoming part of their ongoing maturation and creation |
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Masturbation is an immature sexual outlet, hedonistic, narcissistic, and potentially addictive |
Masturbation is usually a natural, healthy outlet that children and adolescents use to explore their erotic potential and body pleasure. For adults, self-loving, alone or with a partner, can be a healthy alternative to intercourse or oral sex |
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The natural and primary purpose of coitus is procreation in marriage |
Erotic love is an essential component in our personality that is part of every relationship |
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Sex is basically "below the belt" in our genitals |
Sex is diffused, permeates our whole body, personality, and everything we do. Our whole body has an erotic potential. Our lives express a panerotic potential (Stayton 1992; Timmerman 1993 pp. 53-55). |
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Natural sex is heterosexual, coital, procreative, and monogamous. The alternative is celibacy. |
Sex is "polymorphic perversity," our "panerotic potential." Healthy sexual relationships can be part of polyamorous relations, intimate networks, sexually open marriages, and other alternatives to traditional monogamy. Healthy sexual intimacy can also be part of a deliberately childless marriage. Diversity will be the rule in the 21st century. |
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Non-coital heterosexual sexual pleasure and all homosexual contact are unnatural |
Non-coital erotic pleasure can be a healthy sexual expression. The quality of the relationship determines its moral value, not what is done by whom to whom and how. |
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Marriage is "until death do us part" |
A legal or religious divorce can be a healthy recognition that a marriage has died, aborted. It can be a healthy resolution for both adults and their children. |
SOURCE: Adapted from Francoeur & Perper, T. (2004). In R. T. Francoeur & R. J. Noonan (Eds.), Continuum Complete International Encyclopedia of Sexuality (pp. 1141-1142); Francoeur, 1987, 1990, 1994, 1996, 2001).
Before we move into the details of Catholic culture and sexual health, let me offer an illustration.
All religions have some kind of sacred text—the Qur'an, the Bible, the Torah, and other canonical texts. Interpretation of these sacred texts depends on the fixed or process worldview the interpreter adopts. A 1987 document from the Episcopal Church of Northern New Jersey, titled Report of the Task Force on Changing Patterns of Sexuality and Family Life, describes the quite-different role divine revelation, sacred texts, and traditional teachings have for people who adopt the process viewpoint:
The Judaeo-Christian tradition is a tradition precisely because, in every historical and social circumstance, the thinking faithful have brought to bear the best interpretation of the current realities in correlation with their interpretation of tradition as they have inherited it. Thus, truth in the Judaeo-Christian tradition is a dynamic process to be discerned and formulated rather than a static structure to be received. The Bible is misunderstood and misused when approached as a book of moral prescriptions directly applicable to all moral dilemmas. Rather, the Bible is the record of the response to the word of God addressed to Israel and to the Church throughout centuries of changing social, historical, and cultural conditions. The Faithful responded within the realities of their particular situation, guided by the direction of previous revelation, but not captive to it. (Thayer 1987, pp. 1-10; Spong, 1988)
Practically no religious group or individual totally adheres exclusively to one or the other of these two worldviews. The vast majority of religious-minded people mix different Type A and Type B elements in their lives (see Table 1). Some mainstream churches today manage to accommodate advocates of both worldviews among their members. The Episcopal Church of the USA, for example, has ordained women priests and openly gay priests and a gay bishop despite opposition within their own communion. Despite such variations, overall, religious groups and individuals tend to favor one or the other perspective and set their sexual values accordingly.
Recalling the distinctions between natural and unnatural behaviors, and the fixed and process worldviews, we can get to the heart of the matter, the factors that have molded and shaped Catholic beliefs on sexuality and sexual values, and their impact on sexual health.
FROM HEBREW ANTHROPOLOGY TO THE TWENTY-FIRST CENTURY
Teilhard de Chardin, the pioneering Jesuit paleontologist who developed a synthesis of evolution and Catholic theology/spirituality, warned us that "Nothing can be understood outside its history" (Cited by Maguire, 2001, p. 32). To understand the contributions and obstacles Catholic culture has made to sexual health, we need to look back in time to sharpen our perspective, to see where Catholic thought about sexuality started, and how it has evolved and changed in its 2,000-year history.
Hebrew
Roots
In Jewish belief and the Talmud, heaven consists of
"Sabbath, sunshine and sex." The key to this comfort with sex and passion lies
in the way the Hebrews understood human nature. In Hebrew anthropology, the
human is a whole person, a psychosomatic unity. Their word nephesh
refers to "the essential and vital quality of life itself," "the whole person."
There is definitely no place in Hebrew thought for a disembodied "soul." The
Hebrew language doesn't even have an equivalent for the Greek word psyche
or the English word soul. The writers
of the four Gospels reflect this holistic anthropology, using the Greek psyche
only once (Mt 10:28), while they use the Hebrew nephesh 60 times.
When we read the Bible and try to talk about humans in dualistic terms of body and soul, we are reading Greek philosophy into the text. The holistic Hebrew description of "human" is incompatible with Plato's idea of a soul imprisoned in a body of flesh. The Hebrew concept of "flesh" is neither evil nor opposed to the "higher" parts of man. The Hebrew word for "flesh" refers to the whole of our creaturely experience, both physical and mental, to "the situation of man before God." "Flesh" includes the whole "earthly sphere," our environment, and not just the body (Francoeur, 1965; Lawrence, 1989, pp. 6-9, 128).
Except for the Essenes, who withdrew from "corrupt public life" and were waiting patiently for the messiah, Hebrew tradition did not value sexual asceticism, celibacy, or the single life (Ranke-Heinemann, 1990, pp. 18-19). Marriage was a civil, secular matter established when the couple had sexual intercourse. Jewish marriage is not a sacrament, but intercourse is a mitzvah, a religious duty, a meritorious performance, and a charitable and humanitarian act. "In Jewish history coitus has been consistently and unambiguously valued for the sheer joy and pleasure of it, even where procreation was obviously impossible" (Lawrence, 1989, p. 17). Nonetheless, Judaism has a very strong patriarchal bias, as do all major religions, along with a minor puritanical current that sees some aspects of sex as defilement or contamination (Ex 19:15; Lev 15:16ff. 22:4).
The Epistle of Holiness of Nahmanidesadvises Jews to prefer the Sabbath for sexual intercourse because it is "holy unto the Lord." According to Herman Wouk, a contemporary Jewish writer,
What in other cultures has been a deed of shame, or of comedy, or of orgy, or of physical necessity, or of high romance, has been in Judaism one of the main things God wants man to do. If it turns out to be the keenest pleasure in life, that is no surprise to a people eternally sure God is good. (quoted in Lawrence, 1989, p. 30)
In the time of Jesus, strict patriarchal Jewish practice did not permit a man to speak publicly even to his own wife, much less to a strange woman. But on several occasions, Jesus talked at length with women in a public place in ways that would be considered brazen, unheard of breaches of social propriety. In chapter four of his Gospel, John tells how when Jesus and the disciples arrived at midday at Jacob's well, the apostles went into town, leaving Jesus alone with no bucket to get a drink from the well. When a woman arrived, Jesus asked her to get him a drink. That opened a conversation in which Jesus, a Jew, talked with this woman at length, despite her being a Samaritan, despite her having had five husbands, and despite her living with a man who was not her husband.
There was also a public sinner, probably a prostitute, who let down her hair as a public gesture of intimacy, wet the feet of Jesus with her tears, dried them with her hair, and then kissed and anointed them with oil (Luke 7:36ff). Similar incidents are recorded by Mathew and Mark. There was an unnamed woman who anointed Jesus' head with oil, and Mary of Bethany who anointed and dried his feet with her hair but without tears or kisses. And there were women who left their homes to travel with Jesus and later with the apostles. Observant patriarchal Jews were surely shocked by these brazen breaches of social custom (Fiorenza, 1998; Lawrence, 1989, pp. 62-63, 75-77; Moltmann-Wendel, 1982).
Alongside these sex-affirming, gender-egalitarian views in the writings of the apostles, we find many more blatant examples of patriarchy and misogyny (hatred of women) that echo through the centuries in statements by the early Fathers of the Church, Augustine, Jerome, and Aquinas, theologians of all sorts, and yes, even popes (Gudorf, 1994, pp.10-11).
To understand the evolution of Christian sexual culture from the early sex-affirming Hebrew anthropology and life of Jesus to Christianity's later persistent discomfort with sex and pleasure throughout its subsequent history, we have to look at three interwoven philosophical influences from classical Greek and Roman thought. How these traditions and culture interacted, who borrowed from whom, and to what extent these cultures affected the lives of free men and women, citizens, serfs, and slaves, no one knows. The interactions and back-and-forth exchanges are too complex to decipher after 2,000 years.
Even so, we do know that Jerome, Origen, Augustine, and others used Plato's and Plotinus' dualistic world of souls exiled and imprisoned in the tomb of our bodies to support and enrich their developing Christian theology. Additional sex-and-woman-negative philosophy was picked up from the Stoics who were obsessed with abstaining from anything pleasurable or involving the body. Finally, there was a variety of Gnostics, who believed a good God created our souls and an evil spirit created our bodies. Some Gnostics who considered themselves Christians placed sexual renunciation at the very heart of Christian moral life. Within three centuries after Jesus, the majority of Christian thinkers had adopted the negative views of women, sex, and pleasure from these pagan sources.
Adopting these pagan sexual values gave Christians political cachet in 325 C.E., when the not-yet-converted Emperor Constantine recognized the political advantages of uniting church and state under "one God, one faith, and one church with one empire and one emperor" (Carroll, 2002; Küng, 2003, p. 47).
Plato's Dualistic Influence
Six hundred years before Christ, the earliest images of Eros reveal the
Greek god of love as irrational, uncontrollable, mad, and foolish. Counter to
the holistic Hebrew anthropology, the Greco-Roman world adopted a dualistic
cosmology in which there was a constant conflict with the soul and mind seeking
liberation from the prison of the fleshly body. In this view, the body is
somehow the source of evil. In The Laws for his utopian Republic,
Plato claimed that the world would benefit enormously if all sexual pleasures
were abolished and all non-procreative sexual relations outlawed.
For Plato and Socrates, all expressions of sexuality were morally inferior to sexual abstinence, whether these were marital or extramarital, or with a same- or other-sex partner. Sexual relations of a man with a boy were less inferior to abstinence. Because any of these expressions involved the body and its senses, they were more or less harmful to the soul's health. As Socrates advised his friend Xenophon, it takes at least a year "to recover from the scorpion's bite" (Lawrence, 1989, pp. 8-15).
After the disastrous war of 66 C.E. and the rebellion of 125 C.E., Rome disenfranchised the Jews. With the Jews ostracized, Christians were increasingly open to influence by the Platonic, Stoic, and Gnostic cultures surrounding them. Christians inhaled these philosophies with every breath they took. Neo-Platonism colored much of Augustine's views of sex, and through him, most of Christian and especially Catholic thought down to the present day (Francoeur, 1992, 1994).
A
Wedding of Stoic and Catholic Sexual Teachings
Stoicism, the preeminent philosophy
of the Roman Empire at the beginning of the Christian movement, endorsed a form
of Platonic dualism. Seneca the Younger, a contemporary of Jesus and tutor to
the emperors, was the leading Stoic philosopher. His advice? "Do nothing for
the sake of pleasure." Sexual desire, he warned, is "friendship gone mad."
The Stoics believed the ecstasy of sex was dangerous, hard to control, and dangerous to men's health. It subverted men's rational control. Sex was part of the burden the soul struggles to jettison as it rises to the divine. The Vestal virgins and many pagan temple rituals required sexual abstinence before and during their ritual celebrations. The Stoics expressed their contempt of the flesh by abstaining from sex while at the same time indulging in sadomasochistic orgies (Lawrence, 1989, p. 10; Ranke-Heinemann, 1990, p. 99).
Another Stoic contemporary of Jesus highly admired by Christians, Musonius Rufus, maintained that:
Men who are not wantons or immoral are bound to consider sexual intercourse [morally] justified only when it occurs in marriage and is indulged in for the purpose of begetting children, since that is lawful. [Sexual intercourse is] unjust and unlawful when it is mere pleasure-seeking, even in marriage. (Lawrence, 1989, p. 11)
Gnostic
Worldviews and Catholic Sexual Teachings
Alongside the Platonic
and Stoic dualisms, a third influence helped turn Christianity even more against
sex and pleasure. The deeply pessimistic Gnostic cosmology probably originated
in Persia in the century before Jesus, or perhaps earlier in Babylonian myths.
This worldview stressed the worthlessness and baseness of all things. The body
was a "corpse with senses, the grave you carry around with you". Demons created
this world. The soul is a spark of light from another world captured by demonic
powers and banished into this world of darkness, chained to the dark prison of
the body (Ranke-Heinemann, 1990, pp. 15-16).
The early Gnostics tried to create a harmonious blend of pagan and Christian values. They interpreted Christian faith as a special kind of knowledge (gnosis), which the soul/mind can use to transcend the sphere of this earth and enter the divine heavenly sphere. Like the Stoics, the Gnostics often wavered between sexual asceticism and libertine behavior, both motivated by their contempt for the body.
Early on, Gnosticism was condemned as a heresy and defeated. However, over the centuries, Gnostic views have been resurrected by the Albigensians and medieval Cathars, and more recently by the French and Irish Jansenists and some New Age spiritualities (Ehrman, 2003; Lawrence, 1989, p. 95; Ranke-Heinemann, 1990, pp. 15, 48-49).
From the
Apostles to the Middle Ages
Although Jesus said practically nothing about sex, he
did openly oppose the Jewish patriarchal structure in his comfortable
friendship and respect for women. His message, however, apparently had little
effect on the males who led his Church after his crucifixion in 67 C.E.
Historians widely acknowledge that the Apostle Paul was the major influence in opening up the early Jewish/Christian community to the secular and Stoic culture of imperial Rome. That influence, spread in his travels and a dozen Epistles written to Christians in Corinth, Ephesus, Galatia, Rome, and elsewhere, culminated in 327 C.E. with Constantine's recognition of Christianity as the religion of the Roman Empire.
Recently, biblical scholars have suggested that some of the patriarchal Stoic household values and advice—e.g., that women remain silent and subject to their husbands—that we find in Paul's Letters, may have been inserted by a follower after his death more as a political strategy than as a put-down directly aimed at women. Both of Paul's parents were Roman citizens and Jewish converts. Living in Tarsus (Asia Minor), Paul got his Jewish education in Jerusalem, where he became a nationalistic zealot and probably a Pharisee. He was fluent in Aramaic, but also in Greek and probably in Latin. He was exposed to Hellenistic and Roman Stoicism before his conversion to Christianity. Scholars are still debating whether Paul, or his followers, may have introduced the Stoic, Gnostic, and Jewish apocalyptic values and views on marriage and women that are so foreign to Paul's liberating thought found elsewhere in the Epistles (Bristow, 1991; Fiorenza, 1984, pp. 154; Horsley, 1997, pp. 140-252; Lawrence, 1989, pp. 31-77; Maccoby, 1998; Ranke-Heinemann, 1990, pp. 33-46; White, 2004, pp. 260-271).
Despite being a Roman citizen educated in Stoic values, Paul ended four of his letters urging his followers to "Greet one another with a holy kiss." (Peter also closes his epistle by urging his followers to share the "kiss of love.") This expression of the early Christian community was a powerful and important gesture in the early Jesus movement, but it was quickly neutralized when Clement of Alexandria (c. 200 C.E.)and his contemporary, Athenagoras, reminded Christians of a law that penalized "any man who takes a second kiss for the motive of pleasure. … Anyone stirred by this kiss to lusty thoughts will be deprived by God of eternal life." Pretty serious business! Eventually, Paul's "kiss of peace" devolved into an innocent liturgical handshake (Lawrence, 1989, pp. 84-85).
After the death of the apostles and Paul, male Church leaders quickly reestablished an exclusively patriarchal rule. They found handy and potent weapons in the prevailing Stoic morality, in Platonic/Neo-Platonic dualism, and Gnosticism. In one example, biblical translations and commentaries turned the Gospel brothers and sisters of Jesus into stepbrothers and stepsisters from Joseph's first marriage, and then into cousins. Joseph became as virginal as his wife Mary, who conceived Jesus by the Holy Spirit and gave birth in a spontaneous Caesarean section that left her hymen intact and her vagina unpenetrated. The birth of Jesus was so virginal, there was not even a placenta (sordes in Latin). Later translations of the New Testament promoted celibacy by turning the wives of the apostles into sisters and then into housekeepers (Ranke-Heinemann, 1990, pp. 27-39, 343-344).
During the third century, the obsession with sex repression triumphed in the Christian church. At the Council of Elvira (309 C.E.), almost half of the 81 canons adopted dealt with sex. These canons reflected an irrational fear of sex as defilement and contamination, and established its importance over every other ethical issue, including murder. Sexual purity—abstinence—was clearly proclaimed as the Christian standard. Sex in almost every imaginable form was proscribed or severely limited. After Constantine united church and state in 325 C.E. and controlled the Ecumenical Council of Nicaea, it became increasingly popular for Christians to outdo the Stoics in their repression of sex (Küng, 2003, pp. 45-49).
Augustine (354-430) has been, next to Paul, the greatest influence on Christian thought, both Protestant and Catholic. Augustine followed the Manichean dualism of Zoroaster in his youth, before he finally gave up two mistresses, converted to Christianity, and became a bishop. Augustine rejected Manichean dualism, but continued teaching that original sin was passed from parents to offspring by the passion and desire inherent in sexual intercourse. A Christian Platonist until his death, Augustine held that "Man but not woman is made in the image and likeness of God." As Augustine saw it, "nothing so casts down the manly mind from its [rational, spiritual] heights as the fondling of women, and those bodily contacts which belong to the married state." Augustine was dogmatic about the "shame which attends all sexual intercourse," even when engaged in by a married couple for the sole purpose of procreation. According to Augustine, "sexual intercourse is always performed with lust and therefore needs to be hidden." The sexual organs were "obscene parts" (Maguire, 2001, p. 19; Ranke-Heinemann, 1990).
By 600, Pope Gregory the Great had declared that "sensual pleasure can never be without sin." Anselm of Laon, who died in 1117, honored as "Father of Scholasticism," defended the thesis that the amount of pleasure in any action determines the extent of its sinfulness. Albert the Great taught that sexual pleasure is an evil punishment, filthy, defiling, ugly, shameful, sick, a degradation of the mind, a humiliation of reason by the flesh, debasing, humiliating, shared with the beasts, brutal, corrupted, depraved, and infects us with original sin. Thomas Aquinas, the greatest theologian of the Middle Ages, taught that "sexual pleasure completely checks the use of reason, stifles reason, and absorbs the mind" (Ranke-Heinemann, 1990, pp. 177-178).
These views of sexual pleasure took on new meaning in the early 1100s when Peter Lombard advocated recognizing marriage as a seventh sacrament. Because marriage involved sex, it had to be the lowest of the seven sacraments, intended for third-class Christians. Lombard also told Christians that the Holy Spirit flees the room when a married couple has sex, even if they do it without passion or to make new virgins for the kingdom of heaven (Lawrence, 1989, pp. 30, 150). The main effect of this was to extend the clergy's control over sex rather than to bless sexual pleasure. In addition, Aquinas even argued that the less passion a husband has for his wife, the more children he will have and the healthier they will be (Summa Theologiae III q.65a.2ad 1; Ranke-Heinemann, 1990, pp. 153-159, 181).
Despite being a sacrament, the ideal marriage was purely spiritual, a "Josephite marriage" modeled on the virginal union of Joseph and Mary. With procreation, the only justification for marriage, even a wife who remained frigid and did not experience any passion or emotion in sexual intercourse could not prevent the transmission of original sin to her offspring. William of Auvergne (d. 1249), the bishop of Paris, advised married couples to "flee all physical pleasure." In his view, it was wonderful when "young men remain cold with their wives, even when they are beautiful" (Ranke-Heinemann, 1990, p. 155). (In 2001, Pope John Paul II canonized Luigi and Maria Beltrame, who lived the last 26 years of their marriage as "brother and sister.")
Abelard, a leading medieval theologian, a bit of a scoundrel, University of Paris professor, and the famous lover of Heloise, was one of the few to oppose this ancient and medieval antisexual value system:
No natural pleasure of the flesh may be declared a sin, nor may one impute guilt when someone is delighted by pleasure where he must necessarily feel it. … From the first day of our creation, when man lived without sin in Paradise, sexual intercourse and good tasting foods were naturally bound up with pleasure. God himself has established nature in this way. (Quoted by Ranke-Heinemann, 1990, p. 169)
When their scandalous secret marriage was discovered, Heloise's guardian sent her to a convent and had his servants castrate Abelard in his sleep (Lawrence, 1989, pp. 150-157, Ranke-Heinemann, 1990, pp. 168-171).
By the 1200s, Catholic clergymen were either living a fully monastic life or as celibates in quasi-monastic rectories. Simultaneously, Gnosticism had reemerged as Catharism and Albigensianism, allowing the celibate male clergy to announce the salvation message of Jesus, telling Christians who were blessed in the new sacrament of marriage that they should abstain from marital intercourse on the following days:
· All Thursdays in memory of the arrest of Jesus (54 days a year),
· All Fridays in memory of the death of Jesus (another 54 days),
· All Saturdays in honor of the Virgin Mary (another 54 days),
· All Sundays in honor of the resurrection (54 more days), and
· All Mondays to remember the departed souls (54 days).
In addition to banning marital intercourse on 270 of the 365 days of the year, intercourse was banned on the 40 days before Pentecost, Christmas, and Easter.
This left a scant 61 days when marital sex was morally acceptable. But, if the wife became pregnant, she and her husband could not have intercourse at any time during the nine months of pregnancy and during the 40 or 80 days between birth of the baby and "churching" (purification) of the new mother. Sex was also banned on the seventh, fifth, and third days before receiving the Holy Communion (Lawrence, 1989, pp. 30, 134-165; Timmerman, 1986).
Who created these calendars banning marital sex most of the year? Who created these blatant denunciations of sex, women, and pleasure? Men! Males "convinced of the superiority of their sex." Specifically, the all-male, increasingly celibate church hierarchy, the monks, hermits, clergy, bishops, and popes, in councils and in academic debates. In Western society, all this public discourse was resolutely designed by males to control sex and women (Duby, 1997/1998).
And who passed this sex-negative, anti-woman value system on to the local parishioners, the Christian serfs, peasants, town merchants, and craftsmen? That task fell to the local male clergy. Between the third century and the Middle Ages, the sacrament of penance—commonly referred to as "confession"—shifted from a public communal admission of shared sinfulness during the liturgy to a penitent kneeling in a dark confessional confessing his or her sins to a local pastor. These mostly uneducated, at best semiliterate pastors relied on "penitentials," do-it-yourself guides with lists of sins and their appropriate penances of fasting, pilgrimages, singing "penitential psalms" in public or private, private or public prayers, and self-flagellation (for monks) or whipping by the parish priest for the laity. Twenty-five percent to forty-five percent of the sins listed in extant penitentials are sexual sins, including involuntary and voluntary loss of semen, all forms of non-reproductive sex, oral and anal intercourse, rear-entry and woman-on-top positions, and sex at various banned times. The penitentials were very popular until suppressed in the twelfth century, when the newly developing system of Church (canon) law filled the need. In some places, abbreviated lists of "sins of the flesh" were given to adolescent boys as a guide to confession (Lawrence, 1989, pp. 135-140; Tannahill, 1980, pp. 150-153).
The Last
500 Years
After 1,500 years of sharing a common history of
sexual values, the Christian world experienced a schism. Martin Luther, John
Calvin, and Henry VIII fermented the Protestant Reformation and challenged the
Vatican's sexual mores and celibate clergy, allowing divorce, married clergy,
and eventually contraception and abortion. Meanwhile, the Catholic branch of
Christianity maintained its more traditional sex-negative restrictive values.
The Renaissance brought the evolving or process worldview to the surface and into open confrontation with the "traditional" fixed worldview. The paradigm shift from fixed to evolving process began in the heavens, in the 1500s, when Copernicus, Kepler, and Galileo challenged the prevailing belief in an Earth-centered planetary system. (It took 400 years before the Vatican finally apologized for the Inquisition's persecution of Galileo.)
Publication of Charles Darwin's Origin of Speciesin 1858 unleashed heated debates featuring clergy armed with "biblical facts and chronologies" and agnostics like Thomas Huxley, "Darwin's bulldog," debating the literal interpretation of the Bible and the new theory of human evolution. Sixty-five years later, in Dayton, Tennessee, the "Scopes Monkey Trial" created national headlines, when advocates of the fixed and process worldviews again did battle in court and news headlines. The same debate and conflict of worldviews rattled through American society in 2004 as Creationist and "Intelligent Design" advocates went to court in Texas, California, and Bible-Belt states to limit the teaching of evolution and to force school boards to include their fixed worldviews in school science textbooks and curricula (Francoeur, 1965).
In the
past century, men and women experienced more radical social changes than our
ancestors in any other century in human history. Radical changes came in every
aspect of our lives, communicated around the world at ever-increasing speeds,
by telegraph, radio, television, the Internet, and the World Wide Web. In the
twentieth century, we
Jean Piaget and Lawrence Kohlberg, leading moral-development psychologists, have described the stages we pass through from childhood to become responsible, self-actualizing persons:
· Between birth to roughly age 2, we begin developing a moral consciousness.
· In childhood, we develop an egocentric morality, a morality of bending the rules, reacting instinctively, and learning painfully that punishment often follows disobedience.
· In adolescence, we develop a heteronomous morality where we accept a morality imposed by outside civil and religious authorities and learn to live in a law-and-order society.
· Finally, hopefully, we become autonomous mature individuals, internalizing a self-actualizing morality of cooperation based on universal ethical principles (Francoeur, 1983, pp. 17-29).
The other strategy involves a grassroots shift toward an autonomous internalized morality based on adult responsibility and an educated conscience. Among American Catholics, this shift started several decades before the sexual revolution of the 1960s. As Christine Gudorf reminds us,
The Roman Catholic Church (and Christianity in general) has in the last century drastically rethought the meaning of marriage, the dignity and worth of women, the relationship between the body and the soul, and the role of bodily pleasure in Christian life, all of which together have revolutionary implications for church teaching on sexuality and reproduction. In effect, the foundations of the old bans have been raised and their replacements will not support the walls of the traditional ban. (Quoted by Maguire, 2001, p. 39; Jung, 2001)
Fortunately, both Catholic and Protestant groups have been working on a new existentialist, person-and-relationship-oriented sexual ethic. The prime Catholic contribution is a 1977 report authored by Kosnik, et al. (1977), invited and "received but not endorsed" by the Catholic Theological Society of America. This report is definitely worth comparing with the equally widely ignored 1970 United Presbyterian Work Study Document on Sexuality and the Human Community, the 1991 United Presbyterian General Assembly Report on Keeping Body and Soul Together: Sexuality, Spirituality, and Social Justice, and the Northern New Jersey Episcopal Church Report of the Task Force on Changing Patterns of Sexuality and Family Life (Thayer, et al., 1987).
In their report on "new directions in American Catholic thought," Kosnik, et al. (1977, pp. 92-95) focused on sexual morality in terms of the quality and consequences of a particular relationship in the context of eight moral criteria or values. (These eight values are summarized here by Francoeur using the original 1977 report and a 2005 comment by Kosnik.) In essence, they focus on persons and the moral quality of their relationship, not on who does what genitally with whom. This is not a permissive, promiscuous, anything-goes value system. It is, in fact, a very demanding, maturing, and healthy morality.
To be morally acceptable, according to Kosnik, et al. (1977), a sexually intimate relationshipshould be:
Self-Liberating—A means of personal growth toward maturity, not a way of giving oneself totally to another person without allowing for self-growth and expression.
Other-Enriching—More than non-exploitive; looking to the future and actively concerned with the needs of the other person(s); expressing a compassionate and consistent concern for the well-being of others.
Honest—Deception and pretense damage a relationship, but total candor and honesty are not always the wisest choice.
Faithful—Faithful to the commitment a couple makes with each other and continually renegotiate to adjust to changing circumstances and keep their relationship dynamic. Fidelity should not be used to isolate the partner from all other social relationships, an effort that can lead to jealousy, distrust, and destructive possessiveness.
Socially Responsible—Serving the best interests of the couple, family, nation, and world.
Life-Serving—A sexual relationship can serve life by being procreative, by building the human community, and by encouraging the couple to serve the needs of other persons; ministering in a healing way to the fears, hurts, and anxieties of the other.
Joyous—Sexual expression should be playful, nurturing, creative, and celebrate the delights of erotic pleasures (Stayton, 1992).
Finally, for Catholics, and many others in the Judaeo-Christian tradition:
Transcendent or Spiritual—Expressing a Christ-like dimension of love: Sexually expressed and celibate unions should be spiritual, leading individuals to transcend their own egos and physical limits to join in loving communion with others, with the Earth (our nurturing womb), and, for many, in communion with a transcendent God. For those who choose a celibate expression of their sexuality, the goal is a creative integration of all these criteria that "can tolerate the unfulfillment of these in its pursuit of a more creative growth toward integration (A. Kosnik, personal communication, 2005).
Catholic (and Protestant) scholars have barely started to develop a healthy existentialist sexual value system (Cahill, 1985; Gudorf, 1994; Keane, 1978; Whitehead & Whitehead, 1997, 2001). It is too early to tell what contribution the recent Presbyterian, Episcopalian, and Catholic Theological Society of America documents cited here may make to this effort. Thus far, these attempts have been given little formal recognition or attention. Kenneth Anich, an associate professor of psychology at Divine Word Seminary in Iowa, has suggested one possible reason for this lack of discussion,
From the viewpoint of a counseling psychologist, I can see why this list of moral criteria didn't get very far. The criteria, self-liberating, other-enriching, etc., are nice sounding but it seems to me they leave a lot of room for the individual person to convince him/herself that what they are involved in is liberating when it really is abusing. It is an argument used by pedophiles. As humans we have a limitless capacity for self-delusion when it fits our needs. I find these criteria wonderful talking points but in the end not entirely helpful in making moral or ethical judgments in specific situations. (Personal communication, 2005)
In her study of Sexuality and Spiritual Growth, Joan Timmerman has suggested reducing the risk of self-delusion and self-interest by following six steps in our adult decision-making:
1. Be clear of who you are and the kind of human you want to become.
2. Consult all the sources of moral reasoning and wisdom available to you: Scripture, tradition, communal and personal experience, law, imagination and works of imagination, moral rules, and our family values and customs.
3. Identify and discuss your alternatives.
4. Anticipate as best you can the consequences of your decision for the primary parties, the wider network of your relationships, and for society as a whole.
5. Given the self-understanding, data, and evaluation of consequences, what choice do you make.
6. Are you comfortable and at peace with this decision? (Timmerman 1993:124-25, 129-30)
Until the nineteenth century, the common belief was, and still is for many, that men planted their seed—"semen"—in a handy incubator, the woman's uterus, where it was fleshed out by menstrual blood—"uterine milk"—that became, after nine months, a male heir or a daughter. This reproductive power balance gave males a dominant control in society. The discovery of ova and sperm, fertilization and conception, that 55 percent of all the offspring's genes are from the mother and only 45 percent from the father, plus the major contribution females make during pregnancy, began shifting the social power balance toward gender equality and equal rights. It took the Catholic Church 400 years to officially accept Galileo's solar-centered planetary system, at least a century and a half to integrate theology and evolution (Francoeur 1965). The Protestant churches have accepted this more recent gender-equal social power and social system, even as official Catholic doctrine refuses to acknowledge the 55/45 shift that is rippling through the world.
Type A traditionalists, Type B liberals, and the vast majority of Catholics and others in the world of grays betwixt and between A and B face the challenge of creating new icons, new images of transcendence, new descriptions, new spiritual dimensions of human life, and new ideas and God talk that speak to women and men in our increasingly digitalized world. Catholic images of sexuality, love, transcendence, spirituality, and the divine created in the Renaissance world no longer communicate in our rapidly emerging, prefigurative digital world.
Process theology will inevitably gain momentum because it will describe a cosmic structure congruent with our daily experience of this ceaseless flow. We recreate ourselves in and through the forms and structures of our [digital] technologies; the digital world is interactive, modular and fluid, so inevitably our lives and how we think of ourselves are becoming interactive, modular and fluid too. We can make this passage with sanity only if we know and have confidence that God is God and will defend Godself and cannot perish, when everything in this life including our ideas about God is transient and passing. (Thieme, 2005)
1. Dealing with Sexual Guilt/Anxiety
The tension between Catholic culture and sexual health is very complex, peppered with questions about Catholic (and Christian) "masochism, an allergy to pleasure, contempt of the body, and angelism." But the results, according to Jacques-Marie Pohier (1976, p. 106), include for Catholics a "massive dose of guilt and anxiety" apparent in
· a strong dose of misogyny persistently expressed by male celibate clerics,
· a basic fear of women's sexuality and sexual potential,
· a Christian, particularly Catholic, masochistic allergy to pleasure and the unsolved problem of how sexual pleasure fits into Christian life and values, and
· the widespread avoidance of comprehensive sexuality education in Catholic—and public—schools by educators and parents.
Catholicism and Christianity are not alone in having difficulty dealing with sexual pleasure. The vast majority of human cultures and religions today are still not comfortable dealing with sexual pleasure (Macy, 2003; Raming, 2003; Pohier, 1976, pp. 106-107).
Why are these noxious, unhealthy premises still alive and still very effective in American Catholic culture? Why are there still so much misogyny, fear of women, and such a strong allergy to sexual pleasure in the air we breathe?
If American Catholics are so sexually sophisticated, why then do sexual counselors and therapists so often encounter deep-rooted, subconscious anxiety and guilt related to sexual pleasuring in their clients? Why in our culture is sexual pleasuring still so burdened with massive doses of guilt? On the surface, we talk and read about the importance of foreplay, the importance of becoming comfortable with one's own body and feelings and our partner's body, with erotic sensibility, with real communications, and with sexual fantasy and imaginative playfulness and pleasuring. Too many American therapists would agree with psychiatric psychoanalyst Jean Lemaire, founder and former president of the Association Française des Centres de Consultation Conjugale, and his therapist partner, Evelyne Lemaire-Arnauld, in Paris, who wrote that:
The most salient fact is that genital activity [in all of Western culture] is freighted with massive doses of guilt. This in itself, it should be noted, is a generalized phenomenon. It is to be found in most cultures, and particularly in the overall complex known as Judaeo-Christian culture. But the carryover of this basic fact into behavior is more or less marked among Catholics, and those with a traditional upbringing often allude to the massive presence of such guilt feelings.
The frequent effect of the presence of guilt feelings during foreplay is to restrict fantasy and imagination activity, with the result that the partners give and receive less satisfaction during the sex act itself. The progressive discovery of the partner's body and erotic sensibility is often felt to be something sinful, even when the two people have been made aware of the necessity and importance of this activity.
Catholics seem to be imbued with a markedly distinctive image that sets them off from other Christian circles in more than one respect. This image is translated into their day-to-day behavior patterns also, particularly when they have been deeply influenced by a traditional Catholic upbringing and education (Lemaire & Lemaire-Arnaud, 1976, pp. 72-73).
During the 1960s sexual revolution, Margaret Mead described America as a "prefigurative culture" whose traditional icons and myths no longer communicate to younger generations. Among our preexisting cultural forms, marriage and family "have suddenly gone liquid, losing their former shape as they are retailored [for our computerized world]" (Langdon Winner, quoted by Thieme, 2005). Today, half of America's first marriages and 60 percent of second marriages end in divorce, while 40 percent to 70 percent of married persons have engaged in extramarital or co-marital sex. Recognizing that we are experiencing a major "elemental restructuring," Christine Gudorf (1994, p. 79), a leading Catholic ethicist and author of Body Sex and Pleasure: Reconstructing Christian Sexual Ethics, concludes that "Marriage can take many shapes and forms. Institutions such as churches and states should allow various forms of marriage, and should be open to any marital roles/patterns which are non-abusive, just, and socially responsible."
In a 1986 letter to the American bishops on the pastoral care of homosexual persons, the Congregation for the Doctrine of the Faith (CDF, 1986 #3) reminded the bishops in a statement of morals, that is not "infallible" but needs to be seriously considered, that
Although the particular inclination of the homosexual person is not a sin, it is a more or less strong tendency ordered toward an intrinsic moral evil; and thus the inclination itself must be seen as an objective disorder. Living out of this orientation in homosexual activity is not a morally acceptable option. (Quoted in Gramick & Furey, 1988, pp. 1-11)
The Vatican's position is the same today as it was in 1986, or in 1977 when authors of the Catholic Theological Society report concluded that
It bears repeating that there is much that is uncertain and provisional about the subject of homosexuality. Much research needs yet to be done, much pastoral experience yet to be accumulated before more than tentative pastoral guidelines can be formulated. It bears repeating, however, without provision that where there is sincere affection, responsibility, and the germ of authentic human relationships—in other words, where there is love—God surely is present (Kosnik, et al., 1977, p. 218).
While the CDF has not changed its position, much new information has been gathered on the history of homosexuality, its nature and causes, biblical and theological perspectives, and the empirical sciences. In many areas of pastoral guidelines, Catholic culture has made major advances (Curb & Manahan, 1985; Francoeur, 1988, 1989; Gramick, 1983, 1988; Nugent, 1984, 1992). The tension between formal and informal values, and between an unchanging fixed worldview and a flexible existential worldview is evident when John R. Quinn, Archbishop of San Francisco, replied to the Curia's 1986 letter on pastoral care of persons with a homosexual orientation:
We cannot fulfill our task [as pastors and bishops] simply by an uncritical application of solutions designed in past ages for problems which have qualitatively changed, or which did not exist in the past. (Quoted in Gramick & Furey, 1988, p. vii)
In September 2005, the Vatican announced that gay priests and seminarians would no longer be accepted in the ministry. John Allen, Vatican correspondent for the National Catholic Reporter, clarified the message and its legal context. The statement that there will be "No gays in the priesthood" doesn't actually mean "no gays in the priesthood." In the Vatican's mind, it means, "As a general rule, this is not a good idea, but we all know there will be exceptions. We know many lay Catholics and priests, especially in the southern hemisphere and Europe, ignore the church's teachings on contraception, chastity and extramarital sex (for men)."
The Vatican has for centuries maintained that laws express an ideal, a perfect state of affairs, which many people will inevitably fall short of. The law describes the way things should work if we were not frail humans but perfect like the angels. The problem is that American Catholics, being largely Anglo-Saxons and raised in democracies, have a different view of laws. "A law is a law, and we need to obey it." A Catholic can suffer much angst and carry about massive doses of shame and guilt, for being gay, leading a gay lifestyle, or using contraceptives for good reasons (Allen).
The scientific evidence is overwhelming. Newborns exercise their urge for genital pleasure even in the womb, and often after birth. Adolescents and young adults discover very beneficial knowledge about their sexual responses, and tension release in self-loving. Adults of all ages, single and married, benefit from self-pleasuring. Despite these clear sexual health benefits, who knows how long it will take before the formal Catholic condemnation of self-loving changes (Curran & McCormick, 1993; Kosnik, et al., 1977, pp. 220-224; Gudorf, 1994, pp. 91-96, 105).
A new process morality of masturbation, however, can be found in The United Presbyterian Work Study Document on Sexuality and the Human Community, quoted here from Francoeur (1982, p. 666):
Since masturbation is often one of the earliest pleasurable sexual experiences, which is identifiably genital, we consider it essential that the church, through its teachings and through the attitudes it encourages in Christian homes, contribute to a healthy understanding of this experience, which will be free of guilt and shame. The ethical significance of masturbation depends entirely on the context in which it takes place. Therefore, we can see no objection to it when it occurs as a normal developmental experience or as a deliberately chosen alternative to inappropriate heterosexual activity. We can see valid ethical questions raised about masturbatory practices which become compulsive or which inhibit normal heterosexual development. In most instances, however, we believe that masturbation is morally neutral and psychologically benign.
Some texts of Hippocrates and Aristotle indicate a widespread belief that human development in the womb involves a sequence of three life-giving principles or "souls." Based on his observations of naturally miscarried embryos, Aristotle concluded that when a man planted his "seed," its early development was due to a vegetative life principle. At about four weeks, the embryo began to take on the shape of what looked like a primitive fish due to an animal soul. At about six weeks, 40 days, some human embryos developed male-appearing genitals, indicating they had a human life-principle. Embryos only developed female sexual anatomy and life principle at about 80 days. Forty versus 80 days explained why females were much less rational and far more emotional than men—a good reason why male-female friendships were impossible, and same-sex relations accepted or at least tolerated.
Augustine, Aquinas, and others adopted this common "scientific explanation." Terminating an early pregnancy, before quickening, was not considered abortion, infanticide, or homicide. It could, however, be considered an immoral interference with a natural process. This was the common belief between the fifth century and the close of the Middle Ages.
Pope Innocent III (1198-1216) allowed termination of an "unformed" fetus before quickening and condemned abortion of a fully formed human fetus after quickening. In the Renaissance, new embryological observations led Pope Sixtus V (1585-1590) to outlaw all interference with human embryos after conception. But Pope Gregory XIV (1590-1591) reaffirmed the position of Aristotle, Augustine, and Aquinas, allowing termination of pregnancies in the first trimester, only to be reversed by a later Pope when microscopists claimed they could see a preformed human in what they thought was the human egg or sperm. If "ensoulment" occurred at conception, then all abortion was immoral. This became the current Catholic position. Protestants took the opposite position, holding that ensoulment was spread out over three or four months, so early abortion could be accepted (Francoeur, 1970, pp. 66-68; Lewin, 1922, p. 83; Maguire, 2001, pp. 31-41; Moore & Persaud, 1998, pp. 4-12).
Another point to consider is that the Catholic bishops have not convinced Catholic women that all abortions are murder. A 1986 Yankelovich survey found that American Catholic women are as likely as Protestant women to obtain an abortion. Over half of the Catholic women surveyed personally knew someone who had had an abortion and two-thirds of these said that the abortion was the right thing to do. In the same survey, 65 percent of Catholic women and 54 percent of Protestant women thought abortion in general was morally wrong. Yet half of these Catholic women felt that abortion was morally acceptable for an unmarried teenager, a woman on welfare who can't work, or a married woman with a large family. More than three-quarters of American Catholic women surveyed found abortion moral for a woman who had been raped, was the victim of incest, was carrying a fetus with a serious genetic or developmental defect, or when the pregnancy threatened the woman's life (Catholics for a Free Choice, 1986; cited by Gudorf, 1994, p. 246).
A puzzlement? Yes. On one side, it seems, are the pope, bishops, and formal statements of the magisterium. On the other side, are Catholic women and men who are part of the informal sensus fidelium. And yet, as Maguire (2001, p. 35) reminds us,
The Roman Catholic position on abortion is pluralistic. It has a strong pro-choice tradition and a conservative anti-choice tradition. Neither is official, and neither is more Catholic than the other.
Vern Bullough, America's leading historian of sexuality, has noted that
Though Christian theologians have periodically attempted to rid Christianity of the Gnostic-Manichean-Stoic outlook on sex, they have not been entirely successful. Thus, though the Puritans did emphasize the joys of marital sex, they continued to condemn all sexual pleasure outside of marriage, including masturbation, as sinful. In fact, despite its embrace of the joys of marital sexual union, New England Puritanism seemed to have the same Christian obsession with sex that was present in the early Church Fathers. It is only as Christian theologians have tried to break with traditional Christian interpreters that they have been successful in undoing some of the Christian ambivalence about sexuality. Even so, Christianity cannot avoid accepting a major responsibility for much of the psychological harm and guilt anxieties its traditional antisexual attitudes still cause today for too many men and women. (Bullough, 1987, p. 283)
This statement summarizing Catholic culture and its connection with sexual health suggests that we end with four brief seminal insights into the future of Catholic views on sexuality and sexual health.
The first statement is a series of three questions from C. Jaime Snoek, a prominent European Catholic priest and theologian of the 1960s. Written four decades ago, before gender-inclusive language replaced man/he, Shoek's three questions reflect a prophetic insights that is just beginning to penetrate thinking on sexual morality.:
How will the man of tomorrow live his sexual life?
Will he have won greater inner freedom?
Will he have destroyed the tyranny of genitality and replaced it by a more discrete form of eroticism, more widespread, more communicative, permeating all human relationships? (Quoted in Francoeur & Francoeur, 1974, p. 199)
Diarmuid O'Murchu, a Catholic priest, social psychologist, and author of Quantum Theology, replies that:
… human sexuality has outgrown its functional and exclusive focus on the procreation of new life, adopting a more inclusive ambience of mutual enrichment of the spouses, as well as the possibility of procreation within the context of monogamous marriage. … Genitality is no longer reserved for heterosexual monogamous relationships, never mind for marital union. It has become a dimension of human intimacy in the many different situations in which people seek to express tenderness, affection, and mutuality. (O'Murchu, 1997, p. 190)
Today, as never before, the challenge of developing a healthy and informed conscience, the ultimate guide in moral decisions according to Catholic doctrine, is complicated when the majority of Church authorities live in a fixed world and the majority of lay Catholics live in a process world with the two camps speaking two very different languages. For example, a few weeks before Cardinal Ratzinger became Pope Benedict XVI in June 2005, a priest in the Midwest told me about a private discussion he had had with a high-ranking Curia member visiting in a neighboring diocese. When the pastor asked the Vatican official how he should handle questions about controversial subjects like masturbation, premarital sex, birth control, married priests, and women priests, he was told that "silence" was the only acceptable public response. Meaning that, in public, pastors should state the official teaching and not comment or discuss it. Whatever is said in the confessional or one-on-one counseling is strictly private and stays that way.
We all experience a child's life, where our parents teach us the rules, "what is so is so". Then, as we grow up and cope with the turbulence of adolescence, we question the rules we were taught. In a world of "some things nearly so, some things nearly not", Timmerman reminds Catholics that "The precise meaning of being adult is to have no human model, but to find one's [own] way, as a physical copy but a spiritual original, to make the divine model [of Christ] present in a new way" in our lives (1993, p. 128).
Timmerman's major emphasis on the spiritual places a very positive value on Eros/desire. In a healthy sexuality, spiritual growth and sexual desire are interconnected energies. In our sexual unfolding and spiritual awakening, we have to deal with the anxieties, shames, fears and sex inhibiting messages we picked up in our childhood. "About this [challenge) we have no message from the Lord. … Certainly this task [of achieving human maturation] is accomplished by trial and error, by taking risks and making mistakes, and slowly muddling through to maturity". This shifts the fundamental moral paradigm beyond mothball judgments and conformity to categorical blocks of canned laws to achieving spiritual growth and moral formation. In Timmerman's conclusion, "Intercourse is the equivalent in sexual development of the stage of self-transcendence in spiritual formation. In a setting of mutual love and care, it is probably the most profound experience of self-transcendence" (Timmerman 1993, pp, 52-55, 62; Sarrel and Sarrel 1980).
Finally, two brief statements.
First, Dan Maguire, author of Sacred Choices (2001, p. 23), observes that:
Nothing survives that cannot adapt to change, including the world's religions. They have been adapting, correcting themselves, and coming up with new ideas all through the centuries. If they hadn't changed, they would not be taken seriously today.
And then two sentences from Joseph Cardinal Ratzinger, before he became Pope Benedict XVI,
Over the Pope as the expression of the binding claim of ecclesiastical authority,
there
still stands one's own conscience,
which must be obeyed before all else,
if necessary even against the requirement of ecclesiastical authority.
This emphasis on the individual,
whose conscience confronts him with a supreme and ultimate tribunal,
and one which in the last resort is beyond the claim of external social groups,
even of the official Church,
also
establishes a principle in opposition to increasing totalitarianism."
(In: Commentary on the Doctrine of Vatican II, vol. 5, p.134, edited by
Herbert Vormgrimler)
In this brief statement, Pope Benedict recognizes a Catholic's conscience as the "supreme and ultimate tribunal", bringing us back to the King's "puzzlement". The King realizes that in the ultimate analysis, as a mature person, each of us has the moral responsibility to think carefully for ourselves in a world where "somethings are nearly so, and somethings nearly not". In reality life is a constant puzzlement for each of us.
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