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MALAYSIA, MALAY
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The Malay boy is told by the mudin at circumcision (ages seven to
twelve?),
when the foreskin is loose, “that the boy must have been playing with his
penis” (Wilder, 1970:p225)[1], but no consequence was
apparently attached. At about twelve (sexual maturity) it becomes the general
rule that boys and girls do not associate (p228, 230-1). “One of the
commonest notions held but the adults (though not very openly) is the
suspicion of clandestine encounters between boys and girls, or between boys
and adult women (divorcees), for purposes of sexual play and sexual
intercourse. […] There is, too, a strong suspicion expressed by adults, which
also comes out in teasing among older boys, of voyeurism among the boys of
the village” (p239). In the past decade, Malaysia has undergone rapid modernization
and social changes, including rising age at marriage and “erosion of
traditional limits on interactions between unmarried boys and girls”[2]. Joining the global scene, there
would also have been an increasing awareness that sexual abuse of “children”
(<18y) is “a problem” in Malaysia[3]. While measuring lower than
Western rates among paramedical students, the authors aimed at dispelling
“the Malaysian myth that sexual abuse [of “children”] is a “foreign” disease
that has recently “infected [their] country” (p491). Thus, “[…] the awareness
of sexual abuse [of children] has increased considerably in Malaysia in recent years and there may
still be some way to go in recognition”[4] [arguing for compulsory reporting
by professionals].
Of Malaysian male medical students, 40% were
aware of homosexual feelings prior to age 15 years (opposing a 16% current
awareness)[5]. Almost half of adolescents (15-21,
probability household sampled survey carried out in Kuala Lumpur in 1986) who indulged in
masturbation, begun earlier in males, were worried by the act, especially
females[6].
In
Islamic women, sunnah circumcision (“Female circumcision in the Malay society
is now [1993] often performed well before puberty between five and eight
years old, and it is getting younger. Many parents prefer to circumcise their
daughters immediately after birth”) is in part motivated on the grounds that
“it takes away a part of the female body which can enhance her sexuality and
promiscuity. Many argue that it is dangerous if a woman is promiscuous and
thus she needs to be circumcised”[7]. Also, “[t]hrough circumcision, a
Malay girl can preserve her virginity. Virginity in Malay society is a
prerequisite and valued highly”.
Van Eerde (1901:p402, as cited by Ronhaar)[9] states that “[…] in most cases we
may assume as certain that the girl during the years of her childhood or as a
girl at play with her boy-friends, has chosen one or more lovers from among
them”; premarital sex is free.
East and West Semai (Malaysia)
A child on its transition to childhood would
be shamed (slniil) by looking away
from him when patting his genitals; the same is done with older boys lifting
up smaller boys, exposing their genitals and yelling “Take a picture!”
(Dentan, 1978:p130)[10].
Dentan (1968:p61-3)[11] discussed the sex rearing
practices of these “non-violent” people. Sexual and aggressive disobedience
may fuse into one concept (sombong,
sumbang, sumbung). “It is reasonably in this context to threaten a
disrespectful child that its genitals will swell to enormous size because an
aggressive breach of propriety falls into the same category as sexual
behavior. Conversely, sexual misbehavior logically is tarlaid, like any other action that is considered violent”.
The East Semai are more casual about the sexual
activities than the west Semai. The play is sometimes overt. “A boy may, for
instance, pretend to copulate with a girl, using a corncob as a penis, while
watching adults whoop with laughter. Adolescent boys often expose the
genitals of younger boys as a joke, for example, by lifting them out of the
water while bathing. On the other hand, as soon as the west Semai child can
speak a few words, its kinsmen begin to put its hands over its genitals,
saying “Cover up! Cover up! Be embarrassed!”. They pat its hand away when it
plays with itself and rebuke it for talking about sex, often threatening that
its genitals will swell”. Similarly, the East Semai expect a good deal of premarital
and extramarital sexual activity, while the West Semai have adopted the Malay code
against such practices, although violations of these rules are common. The East Semai, however, may associate sexual
misbehaviour with aggression, and they often “talk about their first sexual
experience as if it had been very frightening. They say that even after a
virgin boy or girl has consented it may take weeks to consummate the
relationship because the inexperienced person is so scared”.
- Chrisler, J. C. &
Zittel, C. B. (1998)Menarche stories: reminiscences of
college students from Lithuania, Malaysia, Sudan, and the United
States, Health Care Women Int 19,4:303-12
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Janssen,
D. F., Growing Up Sexually. VolumeI. World Reference Atlas. 0.2 ed. 2004. Berlin:
Magnus Hirschfeld Archive for Sexology
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revised: Dec 2004
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