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clearly not the best possible solution. (You might consider
lending or anonymously sending her a copy of this book.)
However, in some specific situations, you may need to
respond to direct questions that are medically relevant.
It is permissible to ask why that piece of information is
important.
Do not give up the search. You deserve, and it is
your right to have, competent, nonjudgmental medical
care. As medicine grapples with sexual issues, physicians
will change, even in the most conservative parts of the
country. Remember, even during the years when African-
Americans in the South were hideously oppressed, there
were white physicians who cared for them, even when it
cost them their white patients. Sexual minorities are no
different, and no less deserving.