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SO (significant other) or primary partner, and the other
relationships are called secondary or fuck buddies. Those
who are open to more than one primary relationship
are called poly or polyamorous. Individuals who are
straightforward and honest about their activities are
called ethical sluts. Fluid-bonded describes a relationship
in which safer sex precautions are not used with that
partner, but are mandatory with other partners. Swingers
are male-female couples who seek other couples, but will
occasionally allow a single to join them. The gay male
version of swinging occurs at the baths or a bathhouse,
which may contain glory holes ­ a hole cut in a partition
through which men can engage in anonymous fellatio.
Places designed for swinging or group sex are also called
sex clubs or sex parties; they usually have a group room for
group sex. Group sex involves orgasm seeking behavior by
three or more individuals at the same time. Female-only
sex parties also exist but are less common.
Non-monogamous relationships can be as healthy
as any other relationship style. People in ethically non-
monogamous relationships can and do maintain long-
term commitments and raise happy families. The kinds
of behaviors you may have encountered among the
nonconsensually non-monogamous (lying, deception,
etc.) are not integral to the phenomenon.
An exhibitionist is someone who enjoys displaying
himself or herself nude, in sexy dress, or engaging in
sexual behavior in front of others; a voyeur is someone
who enjoys watching a sexual display. Both exhibitionism
and voyeurism may be consensual or nonconsensual ­ the
nonconsensual versions are illegal.