area of the body, e.g., tit torture, CBT (cock and ball
torture), and cunt torture. Edge play (activities that tend
to squick people and are more dangerous) include blood
play (shallow piercings or cuts that draw small amounts
of blood), knife play (using a knife to scratch or cut, or
to threaten), electricity (using devices such as TENS units
to deliver electrical shocks), and breath play or control
(strangulation and suffocation).
well-thought-out in terms of safety. A standard criterion
for S/M play is that it should not cause damage requiring
professional intervention to heal (e.g.., broken bones,
deep lacerations, etc.). However, even careful players
sometimes have accidents. For a clearer understanding of
these boundaries, it can be useful to compare S/M play
to contact sports such as football or high-risk activities
such as mountain climbing, and think about what kinds
of injuries are commonplace, what kinds are serious but
accidental, and what kinds might indicate a player who is
inappropriate or out of control.
men with large penises are called size queens. Daddy and
boy imply an S/M relationship; the same terms can be
used by women.
women who appear stereotypically feminine (lipstick,
make-up, high heels, frilly clothes, etc.). Femme women
may also have a decidedly feminine appearance, but