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3. The definitions of these terms are seriously debated

within the sexual minority communities, so these
definitions are approximate and they do change
over time.

4. Even though some of these terms have pejorative

meaning when used by "outsiders," they are not
considered insulting when the patient uses them
to self-describe or to describe friends or lovers.

5. The italicized information in this chapter is intended

to give you a very brief overview of some of the
special questions and issues that may be raised
during your interactions with sexual minorities.
For more information, please consult the Resource
Guide in the back of this book.

Sexual minorities (everything but the traditionally

heterosexual) call themselves or their activities queer, perv,
pervert, kink, fetish, leather or leathersex. Those who are
not sexual minorities are called vanilla or straight; vanilla
is also used to describe non-kink sexual activities. To be
squicked is to be upset or disgusted by a given behavior.

Someone who is coming out (exploring the activity

or beginning to accept the identity) is called a novice
or newbie. An attractive partner is cute or hot; hot is
also used to describe a particularly exciting interaction.
Someone who loves sex (orgasm-seeking behavior) or a
specific sexual activity is called a slut. Sometimes there is
a specific type of sex that is desired, e.g., pain slut, fuck
slut, and anal slut.

So many synonyms exist for male and female genitals,

for breasts, and for masturbation that it is impossible to
list them here. Most are in relatively common vernacular